For some reason, I have spent time in the last week thinking about women I had blown off or rejected and wondering if I did the right thing. At the time , there seemed to be good reason to do so, mainly because they were very clingy and saw a lot more in the relationship then I did. A few years on though, I am wondering if I threw away a good opportunity. How do I get over this?
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Dealing with regrets ...
- Thread starter Firefly
- Start date
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
VikingKing
Banned
Compartmentalize it. It really isn't important, so label i that way in your mind. Easier said than done, but you can.
Tictac
Banned
Regrets, I've had a few
But then again too few to mention....
But then again too few to mention....
Teddy_Beer
Don Juan
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Eh I used to be like you. Letting seemingly good women pass me by. But then I remembered that it's never, EVER a good idea to go back to the past. What's done is done. You d be doing more harm than good by recontacting these women.
just let it go.
just let it go.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I've been there. Think about all the BETTER women you WILL meet in the future!
PS - If the opportunity was so good, why did you "throw it away"? We always tend to forget the bad aspects of things in time..
If it were right, you'd have not hesitated.
PS - If the opportunity was so good, why did you "throw it away"? We always tend to forget the bad aspects of things in time..
If it were right, you'd have not hesitated.