My current gf of 6 months is still very good friends with her ex of 3 years! I am just wondering what your views on this subject are? She is very open with me by telling me that they are still good friends and says she doesnt have anything to hide, but he still loves her and tells her that! Whats the best way to deal with an ex-boyfriend!?? btw he has been nice to me anytime we have met before , therefore making it harder to tell him to fu*k off
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Dealing with ex boyfriend
- Thread starter TheHoff
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
I never tell a woman what to do. And I never try to control them.TheHoff said:My current gf of 6 months is still very good friends with her ex of 3 years! I am just wondering what your views on this subject are? She is very open with me by telling me that they are still good friends and says she doesnt have anything to hide, but he still loves her and tells her that! Whats the best way to deal with an ex-boyfriend!?? btw he has been nice to me anytime we have met before , therefore making it harder to tell him to fu*k off
But I tell them one thing...and that is that I am a man that lives by a code of RESPECT. I tell them that I expect the woman in my life to RESPECT me and to SAFEGUARD me from getting DISRESPECTED.
Key words above in capital letters.
She is telling you everything because she wants you to know that she respects you.
But by seeing a man that used to phuck her (or any man for that particular matter) continuously telling her "I love you" or showing strong interest for her...well, she is NOT safeguarding that respect. In fact, she is allowing him to disrespect you. And only she can fix that.
I feel that at 22 you are too young to be involved in a serious relationship anyway. But wanted to share this post, because it can possibly benefit others (especially older men).
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Be a better boyfriend.TheHoff said:...Whats the best way to deal with an ex-boyfriend!??
backbreaker
Master Don Juan
what are you going to do? they knew each other for 3 years.. want them to just NOT talk to each other? if she wants to cheat, she is going to cheat anyway.
if I fvcked a girl for 3 years straight, as long as she didn't try to kill me, i would imagine we would be friends as well
if I fvcked a girl for 3 years straight, as long as she didn't try to kill me, i would imagine we would be friends as well
In my book...when is over is over. Unless she is the mother of my children, where I'm forced to interact with her.backbreaker said:if I fvcked a girl for 3 years straight, as long as she didn't try to kill me, i would imagine we would be friends as well
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You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
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backbreaker
Master Don Juan
that's your book. I'm not saying I would go out of my way to be friends with her, but that's the natural progression of a relationship. I'm not going to go out of my way NOT to be friends (and just friends) either.. that's just as childish and silly.
Perfect example.. my last GF.. my last REAL GF... i have no interest in her whatsoever, but we keep in touch.. I call her or she calls me about once every couple of months.. make sure she is still breathing, see how her sisters are doing. We realize we aren't ment for eachother (boy are we not ment for each other) but we are still very cool.
however If i ever got to the point where interest was coming back and I started to feel oneitis, I would probably have to cut her off as a friend as well.
also, I've never had a GF for over a year anyway
Perfect example.. my last GF.. my last REAL GF... i have no interest in her whatsoever, but we keep in touch.. I call her or she calls me about once every couple of months.. make sure she is still breathing, see how her sisters are doing. We realize we aren't ment for eachother (boy are we not ment for each other) but we are still very cool.
however If i ever got to the point where interest was coming back and I started to feel oneitis, I would probably have to cut her off as a friend as well.
also, I've never had a GF for over a year anyway