My current gf of 6 months is still very good friends with her ex of 3 years! I am just wondering what your views on this subject are? She is very open with me by telling me that they are still good friends and says she doesnt have anything to hide, but he still loves her and tells her that! Whats the best way to deal with an ex-boyfriend!?? btw he has been nice to me anytime we have met before , therefore making it harder to tell him to fu*k off
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Dealing with ex boyfriend
- Thread starter TheHoff
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
I never tell a woman what to do. And I never try to control them.TheHoff said:My current gf of 6 months is still very good friends with her ex of 3 years! I am just wondering what your views on this subject are? She is very open with me by telling me that they are still good friends and says she doesnt have anything to hide, but he still loves her and tells her that! Whats the best way to deal with an ex-boyfriend!?? btw he has been nice to me anytime we have met before , therefore making it harder to tell him to fu*k off
But I tell them one thing...and that is that I am a man that lives by a code of RESPECT. I tell them that I expect the woman in my life to RESPECT me and to SAFEGUARD me from getting DISRESPECTED.
Key words above in capital letters.
She is telling you everything because she wants you to know that she respects you.
But by seeing a man that used to phuck her (or any man for that particular matter) continuously telling her "I love you" or showing strong interest for her...well, she is NOT safeguarding that respect. In fact, she is allowing him to disrespect you. And only she can fix that.
I feel that at 22 you are too young to be involved in a serious relationship anyway. But wanted to share this post, because it can possibly benefit others (especially older men).
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Be a better boyfriend.TheHoff said:...Whats the best way to deal with an ex-boyfriend!??
backbreaker
Master Don Juan
what are you going to do? they knew each other for 3 years.. want them to just NOT talk to each other? if she wants to cheat, she is going to cheat anyway.
if I fvcked a girl for 3 years straight, as long as she didn't try to kill me, i would imagine we would be friends as well
if I fvcked a girl for 3 years straight, as long as she didn't try to kill me, i would imagine we would be friends as well
In my book...when is over is over. Unless she is the mother of my children, where I'm forced to interact with her.backbreaker said:if I fvcked a girl for 3 years straight, as long as she didn't try to kill me, i would imagine we would be friends as well
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
backbreaker
Master Don Juan
that's your book. I'm not saying I would go out of my way to be friends with her, but that's the natural progression of a relationship. I'm not going to go out of my way NOT to be friends (and just friends) either.. that's just as childish and silly.
Perfect example.. my last GF.. my last REAL GF... i have no interest in her whatsoever, but we keep in touch.. I call her or she calls me about once every couple of months.. make sure she is still breathing, see how her sisters are doing. We realize we aren't ment for eachother (boy are we not ment for each other) but we are still very cool.
however If i ever got to the point where interest was coming back and I started to feel oneitis, I would probably have to cut her off as a friend as well.
also, I've never had a GF for over a year anyway
Perfect example.. my last GF.. my last REAL GF... i have no interest in her whatsoever, but we keep in touch.. I call her or she calls me about once every couple of months.. make sure she is still breathing, see how her sisters are doing. We realize we aren't ment for eachother (boy are we not ment for each other) but we are still very cool.
however If i ever got to the point where interest was coming back and I started to feel oneitis, I would probably have to cut her off as a friend as well.
also, I've never had a GF for over a year anyway