"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Dealing with controlling women?

domino

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What are some effective ways to deal with controlling women?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Nexus Polaris

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Don't comply.

Seriously, they're only controlling if you play along with it.
 

Dilberto

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What do you tell a woman with two black eyes? Nothing......you already told her TWICE!!! J/K!!!
 

xdreamz

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ok repeat after me

i'm in control
i'm in control
i'm in control

now don't use any excuse or explanation and you'll be fine.
 

shinko

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Control takes many forms

If its unreasonable requests then i Laugh. I always laugh at something i think is unreasonable. I then repeat back what they asked me to do and then tap on at the end, what do you take me for/ do you think im crazy? / i thought slavery was abolished years ago. Or something like awww, you clearly dont know me very well if you think imma going to do that. Or even, heeyyy i never knew you started a career in stand up comedy, your really good! Then there's always the counter to anything unreasonable to ask hey whats in it for me. You can even cuss them out. If it's in a silly fun way, you always get away with it. She knows she cant push you around, and you dont get into a fight either.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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sosilky

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I think maybe when a girl is trying to be controlling its because she can sense shes more into the relationship then you. which is good and bad foor you for obvious reasons. whatever she wants offer a compromise. try to meet her half way. unless she is just being ridiculous ofcourse. If she can't compromise she might need to get the message from you that she might be getting nexted. just be prepared for not having her around. you might be surprised how much you miss her. so disipline her but don't burn the bridge. or else she might have the upper hand at some point.
 
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