"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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deal with flocks of girls and maintain your cool?

chancer

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How do you deal with flocks of girls and maintain your cool? The reason I ask is because I've been in a situation, where there were like 30 girls (sorority girls) and only 5 dudes. I just didn't expect to see so many girls and just couldn't relax.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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chancer said:
I just didn't expect to see so many girls and just couldn't relax.
LOL! Thats good experience there man, Learn to relax around all those girls and after a while, Talking to one girl or two will feel like a breeze. Just try to relax and smile at all of them. Sorority girls = :up: One of my favorite songs is "Ima Flirt" By R.Kelly, T.I and T-Pain. Thats what its all about.. Flirt Flirt Flirt.
 

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The problem with being outnumbered by women is that without enough testosterone in the room it's sometimes tough to have a balanced interaction. I noticed this when having dinner awhile back with one other guy and like 4 chicks.....inevitably the convo at times became monopolized by "chick talk" and us guys either had to sit through it for a few minutes or interject and send it in another direction. Too much work.
 

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chancer said:
How do you deal with flocks of girls and maintain your cool? The reason I ask is because I've been in a situation, where there were like 30 girls (sorority girls) and only 5 dudes. I just didn't expect to see so many girls and just couldn't relax.
Ignore them initially. Then pull one off to the side that you're really interested in later on.
 
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