"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Deadlifts with barbells?
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
There are many guys here who can explain much better, but let me tell you my take on deadlifts.
They are not "glamorous", it is not one of those media-driven crowd pleasing chick-magnet exercises. When I mention deadlifts to most people, they have NO friggin' idea what I'm talking about. You say "bench press" and everybody and their uncle knows exactly what you're rambling about.
When I started serious training about a year and half ago, I started these and frankly, they did nothing for me at the time. Reason: I was coming off major injuries (fractured neck/lacerated organs/subdural hematoma/dislocated shoulder) and my first deadlifts were a whopping 60lbs! I was not detered by my lack of startling results and I continued. I've progressed very slowly (my own choice) and right now I am deadlifting about 210 lbs for reps.
Don't judge this exercise by immediate results or "pump." It is a steady workhorse for which you will reap the rewards when you least realize it. If done correctly and with steadily increasing weight, it will assist in building your core - and by virtue of that, the rest of your skeletal strength. I credit much of my recovery from coma-vegetable to where I am today to this damn lift. :kick:
Men's Health seems to promote it every issue, at least during my subscription.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
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Wow Insidious, if your post does fire anyone up on adding deadlifts to their routine, I don't know what will!! Those were some very serious injuries to overcome, great job!insidious said:
I just started doing deadlifts, I'll keep your story in mind and be sure to keep doing them....(I don't enjoy them just yet)
LOL whatever man, it took me about 3 more posts before I understood the OP's question. mintxx, of course you're right. My theory is, if you can't ask what you meant, you didn't mean what you asked. That's what my folks taught me. Whatever.mintxx said:
Let's do the basics here:
barbell = loooong bar weighted on each end with weights Usually (not always) pushed w/ 2 arms.
dumbells = short bar weighted on each end with weights Usually (not always) pushed w/ 1 arm.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
i read dumbbells because it so obviously (to me) doesn't make any sense to ask a question like 'is it good to do deadlifts with barbells'. (how the fukk else do you do them)
maybe if it'd said 'is it good to do deadlifts' (is it good to breathe)
is it good to do deadlifts with barbells (is it good to breathe oxygen)
and please, i know the difference.
ok the answer i would have given if i wasn't trying to read at lightspeed and assume that people knew obvious shyte:
deadlifts are as essential as bench presses. carefuly use good form to avoid injury.
and you bytches KNOW that's why I misread the question. so spare me the sarcasm. i mean wtf? asking if deadlifts are a good idea is pretty daft to me.
