"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Deadlifts with barbells?
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
There are many guys here who can explain much better, but let me tell you my take on deadlifts.
They are not "glamorous", it is not one of those media-driven crowd pleasing chick-magnet exercises. When I mention deadlifts to most people, they have NO friggin' idea what I'm talking about. You say "bench press" and everybody and their uncle knows exactly what you're rambling about.
When I started serious training about a year and half ago, I started these and frankly, they did nothing for me at the time. Reason: I was coming off major injuries (fractured neck/lacerated organs/subdural hematoma/dislocated shoulder) and my first deadlifts were a whopping 60lbs! I was not detered by my lack of startling results and I continued. I've progressed very slowly (my own choice) and right now I am deadlifting about 210 lbs for reps.
Don't judge this exercise by immediate results or "pump." It is a steady workhorse for which you will reap the rewards when you least realize it. If done correctly and with steadily increasing weight, it will assist in building your core - and by virtue of that, the rest of your skeletal strength. I credit much of my recovery from coma-vegetable to where I am today to this damn lift. :kick:
Men's Health seems to promote it every issue, at least during my subscription.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
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Wow Insidious, if your post does fire anyone up on adding deadlifts to their routine, I don't know what will!! Those were some very serious injuries to overcome, great job!insidious said:
I just started doing deadlifts, I'll keep your story in mind and be sure to keep doing them....(I don't enjoy them just yet)
LOL whatever man, it took me about 3 more posts before I understood the OP's question. mintxx, of course you're right. My theory is, if you can't ask what you meant, you didn't mean what you asked. That's what my folks taught me. Whatever.mintxx said:
Let's do the basics here:
barbell = loooong bar weighted on each end with weights Usually (not always) pushed w/ 2 arms.
dumbells = short bar weighted on each end with weights Usually (not always) pushed w/ 1 arm.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
i read dumbbells because it so obviously (to me) doesn't make any sense to ask a question like 'is it good to do deadlifts with barbells'. (how the fukk else do you do them)
maybe if it'd said 'is it good to do deadlifts' (is it good to breathe)
is it good to do deadlifts with barbells (is it good to breathe oxygen)
and please, i know the difference.
ok the answer i would have given if i wasn't trying to read at lightspeed and assume that people knew obvious shyte:
deadlifts are as essential as bench presses. carefuly use good form to avoid injury.
and you bytches KNOW that's why I misread the question. so spare me the sarcasm. i mean wtf? asking if deadlifts are a good idea is pretty daft to me.
