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Deadlifts with barbells?
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There are many guys here who can explain much better, but let me tell you my take on deadlifts.
They are not "glamorous", it is not one of those media-driven crowd pleasing chick-magnet exercises. When I mention deadlifts to most people, they have NO friggin' idea what I'm talking about. You say "bench press" and everybody and their uncle knows exactly what you're rambling about.
When I started serious training about a year and half ago, I started these and frankly, they did nothing for me at the time. Reason: I was coming off major injuries (fractured neck/lacerated organs/subdural hematoma/dislocated shoulder) and my first deadlifts were a whopping 60lbs! I was not detered by my lack of startling results and I continued. I've progressed very slowly (my own choice) and right now I am deadlifting about 210 lbs for reps.
Don't judge this exercise by immediate results or "pump." It is a steady workhorse for which you will reap the rewards when you least realize it. If done correctly and with steadily increasing weight, it will assist in building your core - and by virtue of that, the rest of your skeletal strength. I credit much of my recovery from coma-vegetable to where I am today to this damn lift. :kick:
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Wow Insidious, if your post does fire anyone up on adding deadlifts to their routine, I don't know what will!! Those were some very serious injuries to overcome, great job!insidious said:
I just started doing deadlifts, I'll keep your story in mind and be sure to keep doing them....(I don't enjoy them just yet)
LOL whatever man, it took me about 3 more posts before I understood the OP's question. mintxx, of course you're right. My theory is, if you can't ask what you meant, you didn't mean what you asked. That's what my folks taught me. Whatever.mintxx said:
Let's do the basics here:
barbell = loooong bar weighted on each end with weights Usually (not always) pushed w/ 2 arms.
dumbells = short bar weighted on each end with weights Usually (not always) pushed w/ 1 arm.
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i read dumbbells because it so obviously (to me) doesn't make any sense to ask a question like 'is it good to do deadlifts with barbells'. (how the fukk else do you do them)
maybe if it'd said 'is it good to do deadlifts' (is it good to breathe)
is it good to do deadlifts with barbells (is it good to breathe oxygen)
and please, i know the difference.
ok the answer i would have given if i wasn't trying to read at lightspeed and assume that people knew obvious shyte:
deadlifts are as essential as bench presses. carefuly use good form to avoid injury.
and you bytches KNOW that's why I misread the question. so spare me the sarcasm. i mean wtf? asking if deadlifts are a good idea is pretty daft to me.
