Reyaj
Master Don Juan
I can't see Oscar winning this one....
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Yeah, guys like Ray Robinson used to do it all the time also. Its just a fact of boxing.6-heads lewis said:btw Clooney I dont consider you an Oscarsexual![]()
I can understand the logic of the bigger name making more demands, but it seems tainted to me. This is a fight, let's see who's the better man under equal conditions.
Reminds of me Ray Leonard vs Hagler, I believe the ring was unusually large, the gloves were 10oz instead of 8, and it had 12 rounds instead of 15. Ray Leonard was show-boating and being flashy the whole fight, with tremendous crowd support, while Hagler just flatly plodded along and banged him to the body. Nothing ever hurt or stunned Hagler, Ray's combos were pitty-pat and designed to steal rounds.
That decision wasn't concrete in most people's eyes (I've only seen it once, and had Leonard winning close), I don't want this fight to be tained the way that one was.
I think Oscar is past his prime, he's never really been a pressure fighter. The blueprint to beat Mayweatehr has been made - it was Castillo in the first fight. Keep moving forward with your hands up, cut the ring, throw 5 or 6 punches in a row and you might land the last 2. Oscar has never been that kind of fighter, I can't see him beating Floyd in a contest of counter-punching. Beating Floyd is about stamina, consistency, and a tough chin, I think Oscar will be too focused on size and strength going into the fight.
I dont think Mayweather is nearly as fast as Mosley, the Mosley back then was lightening. Watch how much faster Zab looks against Mayweather, thats how fast Mosley used to be. Its more Mayweathers accuracy, and timing that allows him to hit you on the button, not his speed.Jayer said:yes but Oscar in his prime couldn't beat Shane Mosley's. Mayweather is even faster than Shane and perhaps a better overall boxer?
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Sure is.Jayer said:Next weekend is big day.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Just a few comments on some of these points:Jayer said:I can't agree with anyone that thinks Mosley or Zab is faster than him.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.