She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Thats gold. I've said it a few times, quick number closes are nothing and get you no where more often than not. I never have girls flake on me. Ever. I honestly can't remember the last time it happened. Always go for the venue change during the day. Always. If you don't have time, why bother? I guess if you see a cute girl sitting there but have no time and wanna roll the dice it's no big deal but you need to build some value. Otherwise you expect to pretty much re cold approach her over the phone when you call. It's the same reason I kiss close every girl at the bar and try to go home with them: If she won't go along for the venue change, what the hell makes you think she'll go on a date with you at a later time when you call? Unless she's legitimately busy I guess. The name of the game is disqualifying the girls who won't work out before you waste any time on them that you don't have to. If everyone did this we wouldn't have to sit through all the posts of everyone saying how well they did on their approach, how high her IL's were but she didn't answer the call or flaked out on the date.Snow Plowman said:Only thing I see different in daygame is that the energy level isn't as high as say a club so it is much easier to hook. Overall daygame is easier but seems harder if you are worried about the people around you, the situation your in, etc.
Just like any other set just go in offer value, escalate, vibe, etc. If you have time try to venue change her and even go on a instadate.
I don't recommend you go for quick #s unless you are actually in a rush because all a # actually is, is an extension to continue the interaction another time. So if you just go in to get the # its a waste because she is more likely to flake as opposed to her being attracted, having a good time with you, even went to a different venue with you, ate some food, kissed, and now she gave you her #. She is more likely to pick up the phone.
In every set you should always move it as far as it can go and if logistics are bad (She's with a client, your late for work, etc) then you'd have to go for the # because the logistics are bad right now. But don't go in a set for just the sake of getting a # because #s are BS, its just an extension to interact.
So if you have the time to interact with her right then and there you might as well, instead of getting her # then you have to speak on the phone and try to get her to meetup with you, when the first day you met her you were seeing each other face to face, its like you sort of backtracked by going on the phone only to try and meet up again.
Another thing I notice is that it's harder to hook a chick in the daytime than in the nighttime, but one thing for sure is when it hooks, it hooks as opposed to some of the ADD behavior party chicks have lol.
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
Thanks man, that's pretty much what I figured. it just feels awkward stopping girls any place other than abrs and clubs.j0n024 said:There are better people on here that can probably give you a better answer but I will tell you what I do to get success.
First rule about day game.....
You will be rejected and I cant stress that enough...if you dont think you can handle being rejected multiple times in a row and there is no shame in that then maybe you should do something else until you feel confident enough to do day game.
For me the best approaches arent something that comes from canned lines, usually the best approaches for me are unexpected , unprepared stuff that I got on the spot.
Usually you can get a reaction by going in CALM and collected and just saying "Hi," Or "Hey," and you can go from there. Usually I say what my intention are right from the start ...I just go up to them and tell them I thought they were cute and wanted to get to know them and it has a pretty good success rate for me.
I have found that most OLDER women LOVE the day game approach from younger guys cause they feel special that a younger guy just came up to them and called them cute and is hitting on them in BROAD daylight (lol) whereas the younger crowd see it as a joke since they think that the only way to hook up is through social-networks.
The 2nd most important thing you have to do is be C-A-L-M . You have to be relaxed before you go up to them and you have to be relaxed talking to them and you have to be relaxed leaving them.
You cant just walk up to a girl shaking like a leaf or stuttering or mumbling and expect to get a good interaction. IF you can be relaxed and think to yourself "Hey it's just a girl and I'm BETTER then her."
Now lots of people will probably not like what I just said right there but if you have that mindset where you think your better then the girl your going to talk to I GUARANTEE you that you wont be as nervous walking up to any girl for that matter.
If you can be confident in yourself and not ashamed that your going up to a girl/women in public and start talking to them the you will have success.
Then there is the APOC opener which takes a little refinement but gets the job done faster and it's straight to the point which I LOVE since I dont feel like talking for 10 minutes just to get them in bed.
To put it simply since most people wont read this whole damn post.....
You need to be able to be rejected and not have your feelings hurt.
You need to be confident enough to walk up to any girl.
You need to be confident in your OWN abilities.
You need to learn from your mistakes.
But if any other people have anymore tips then I would be glad to hear them since I am still learning myself.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.