"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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David DeAngelo's Double Your Dating

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I listened to the CDs of the Advanced Series and learned more in them than I am learning in college. If you have listened to them, I'm wondering what others are thinking about them.

Also, I was thinking of getting the ebook by him but was wondering if it is much different than the Advanced Series. I don't want to buy the same thing twice.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I wouldn't buy the ebook if you've listened to the series.

I wouldn't BUY anything from him. The guy charges too much. I'd download it.
 

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David D was the first PUA I ever read. There's a lot of other ones I like better. David D doesn't really go into the dynamics of ****y/funny as much as I like him too. He expresses (very vaguely) that if you're too ****y, women will see you as insecure. He doesn't explain where to draw the line.

The Advanced Series has some good material. There's a lot of CnF lines that are great for framing and reframing social situations. Did you see the one with Sean Stephenson, that three feet tall guy? That floored me.

Honestly though, David D is more of a salesman than a PUA. I like Mystery, Juggler, and Gunwitch more than the other methods.
 

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There is only one guy that is worth checking out.

David X
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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The Deacon said:
David D was the first PUA I ever read. There's a lot of other ones I like better. David D doesn't really go into the dynamics of ****y/funny as much as I like him too. He expresses (very vaguely) that if you're too ****y, women will see you as insecure. He doesn't explain where to draw the line.
I think it's cos C&F is not something that can be well analysed, you gotta find the FEEL of it. DD does a pretty good job as faras that's concerned. You don't need to draw a line, you gotta gravetate towards the right inner attitude. He's about inner game more than anything. Unless you wanna be a robot, that's how it should be.
 

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Gubby said:
I think it's cos C&F is not something that can be well analysed, you gotta find the FEEL of it. DD does a pretty good job as faras that's concerned. You don't need to draw a line, you gotta gravetate towards the right inner attitude. He's about inner game more than anything. Unless you wanna be a robot, that's how it should be.
Although DD is more about marketing than anything else, he's got some good points.

The thing with C&F is that it's supposed to put the b!tch back in her place.

The only problem is that women nowadays don't give a sh!t if some dude used C&F on her because she has 10 other guys lined up that are willing to do anything for her.

C&F is only good as an ice breaker.
 

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Naw, it's a pointer to the right attitude. Like an alpha male type attitude. When a guy doesn't take women seriously, treats em like they were little girls, and is totally sure of the fact that he can get sex, he'll screw about with them just for fun.

C&F is just the ou'tward sign of a good inner game.
 

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I think it's cos C&F is not something that can be well analysed, you gotta find the FEEL of it.
I agree with this. And the line is gonna differ depending on the girl to some extent. I think the two keys (aside from the obvious, like not over doing it) are:

1) Learning to gauge her reaction, and regroup when you think you may have stepped over the line or are tap dancing on it. It's usually not a big deal if you do, just pull back and recalibrate.

2) Mix it in with real, normal conversation. Think of it like an oreo cookie.. c/f is the cookie ends, and normal every day conversation is the filling. No one wants to eat filling all the time-that's boring. But they don't want to eat just the ends either (i.e. non stop c/f)

C/F should spice up the conversation or your story telling. Sprinkle it here and there, but there should be way more depth to you than just being c/f.


The thing with C&F is that it's supposed to put the b!tch back in her place.
Nah, not really. Negs and push/pull are more for that. C/F is about being confident and amusing at the same time, just like the phrase implies.
 

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Is it just me or does the mystery method just seem to be telling stories and expanding upon them to get interest?

But I like DD. He basically reworks your inner game and helps you become more alpha. He tells you how to handle women with his C&F. He doesn't say to use it consistently but with C&F you are less likely to act like an AFC (or Wuss as he calls it). I learned most of the AFC stuff from his book. I never got the series because it costs too much. The book is just $20 so I didn't care.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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You should definitely read DD's material. The free email newsletters from DD were gold and so is his book. Sure you can go into mystery method right away but I think to make it work better you should have that change of attitude that DD's work can help you get.
 
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