Bonhomme
Master Don Juan
Whatever happened to "The worst people talk about other people, better people talk about things, and the best discuss ideas?"
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
David Deangelo's "conversation topics for dates" tip
- Thread starter Bonhomme
- Start date
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Mr.Positive
Master Don Juan
- Joined
- Feb 13, 2007
- Messages
- 1,855
- Reaction score
- 99
Hey, great saying Bonhomme!!
It reminds us of the biggest red flag of all..when women trash talk other people. What people say about others, says everything IMO.
It reminds us of the biggest red flag of all..when women trash talk other people. What people say about others, says everything IMO.
Rollo Tomassi
Master Don Juan
A person who talks about other people is a gossip. A person who talks about themselves is an egoist. But the person who can get another to talk about themselves is an amazing conversationalist.
The recommendation I recall from reading "How to win friends and Influence People" for conversation topic is to talk about, be interested in, and ask questions about the other person. Most people's #1 interest is themselves. You can spend the entire time talking about the other person and they will later dub you as a great conversationalist.
Bonhomme
Master Don Juan
Right on, Rollo and azanon.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Master Bates
Master Don Juan
- Joined
- Jan 26, 2007
- Messages
- 1,001
- Reaction score
- 10
Yeah, um, David DeAngelo didn't come up with that.
Ever onward
Master Don Juan
- Joined
- Jul 11, 2004
- Messages
- 968
- Reaction score
- 3
Bonhomme isn't claiming that David D. came up with that idea. What Bonhomme is referring to is David D's conversational date tip about talking about and busting on other people who are nearby.
Bonhomme is saying "what's up with David D's philosophy? Whatever happened to the mindset that says "The worst people talk about other people, better people talk about things, and the best discuss ideas?"
Bonhomme is saying "what's up with David D's philosophy? Whatever happened to the mindset that says "The worst people talk about other people, better people talk about things, and the best discuss ideas?"
Bonhomme
Master Don Juan
Thanks for posting reference, lildevil. Fran Lebowitz came up with some damn good ones.
Eaxctly, Ever_onward. Reading that "tip" got me thinking I'd not even want a fk-buddy who was into that sort of conversation. Better to just skip the conversation altogether, and get right down to action. Come to think of it, it often is anyway.
Eaxctly, Ever_onward. Reading that "tip" got me thinking I'd not even want a fk-buddy who was into that sort of conversation. Better to just skip the conversation altogether, and get right down to action. Come to think of it, it often is anyway.
e13c7r0nic
New Member
- Joined
- Aug 9, 2007
- Messages
- 8
- Reaction score
- 0
Anyone know any good sources on how to acquire this skill?Rollo Tomassi said:
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.