David Deangelo's "conversation topics for dates" tip

[Bonhomme]

Whatever happened to "The worst people talk about other people, better people talk about things, and the best discuss ideas?"

 

[Mr.Positive]

Hey, great saying Bonhomme!!

It reminds us of the biggest red flag of all..when women trash talk other people. What people say about others, says everything IMO.

 

[Rollo Tomassi]

A person who talks about other people is a gossip. A person who talks about themselves is an egoist. But the person who can get another to talk about themselves is an amazing conversationalist.

 

[azanon]

The recommendation I recall from reading "How to win friends and Influence People" for conversation topic is to talk about, be interested in, and ask questions about the other person. Most people's #1 interest is themselves. You can spend the entire time talking about the other person and they will later dub you as a great conversationalist.

 

[Bonhomme]

Right on, Rollo and azanon.

 

[Master Bates]

Yeah, um, David DeAngelo didn't come up with that.

 

[lildevil]

Yeah, um, David DeAngelo didn't come up with that.

seconded

Great people talk about ideas, average people talk about things, and small people talk about others

is by Fran Lebowitz

 

[Ever onward]

Bonhomme isn't claiming that David D. came up with that idea. What Bonhomme is referring to is David D's conversational date tip about talking about and busting on other people who are nearby.

Bonhomme is saying "what's up with David D's philosophy? Whatever happened to the mindset that says "The worst people talk about other people, better people talk about things, and the best discuss ideas?"

 

[Bonhomme]

Thanks for posting reference, lildevil. Fran Lebowitz came up with some damn good ones.

Eaxctly, Ever_onward. Reading that "tip" got me thinking I'd not even want a fk-buddy who was into that sort of conversation. Better to just skip the conversation altogether, and get right down to action. Come to think of it, it often is anyway.

 

[e13c7r0nic]

A person who talks about other people is a gossip. A person who talks about themselves is an egoist. But the person who can get another to talk about themselves is an amazing conversationalist.

Anyone know any good sources on how to acquire this skill?

 

[Phyzzle]

^^

Dale Carnegie: How to win friends and influence people.