"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
David D is anti smile?
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Just be friendly and smile (but in
appropriate doses, avoid having a grin on your
face ALL THE TIME, guys that are smiling for
hours in a row look terribly insecure and just
plain pathetic).
TillTheEndOfTime
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IMO obsessing with the minor details is the WORST place to start.Originally posted by Recluce
IMO his material is a great place to start because it points out many small details that most guys would never even think about. he outlines some typical situations with women which make great crutches for getting into dating and developing your game.
englishcrap
Senior Don Juan
Dont try to smile because you feel you have to smile. Learn to caliberate and understand what DD is trying to say.
But when it comes to the technique realm, he starts to detail everything HE does. The problem: what HE does may get chicks FOR HIM, but it can become silly as dope if I try it.
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Now I read the MindOverMatter reply. I left what I wrote first for anyone who's interested.
But I agree 101% with MindOverMatter. That's it. If you don't like yourself in the first place, no amount of just be yourself (which is the same as JUST BE A DORK when you're one) will solve your problem.
Let's forget these silly techniques a little bit. One day it will get old don't you think? What about you?
Become the person you want to be is the first thing you have to do to attract quality women. You can learn some SS/DYD/MyAssWhatever, but until you recognize and better yourself, all time learning this "techniques on women" is badly spent.
edit: not to mention you'll be here at SoSuave for ever asking questions everytime something unpredictable happens. True confidence comes from self-respect. "Smile/no smile", "talk like this/like that" will NOT bring that to you!
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
upcomingDJ
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1) smile a lot during the conversation, use kino, and all that friendly stuff
2) (on the same girl) don't smile as much, little or no kino, let her do most of the talking (acting as if she has to prove something to YOU)
after doing both, if she positively reciprocates on both behaviors then it doesn't matter, i used both and number closed easily.. OR if you're really good, you could try to mix both