"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
David D is anti smile?
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Just be friendly and smile (but in
appropriate doses, avoid having a grin on your
face ALL THE TIME, guys that are smiling for
hours in a row look terribly insecure and just
plain pathetic).
TillTheEndOfTime
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IMO obsessing with the minor details is the WORST place to start.Originally posted by Recluce
IMO his material is a great place to start because it points out many small details that most guys would never even think about. he outlines some typical situations with women which make great crutches for getting into dating and developing your game.
englishcrap
Senior Don Juan
Dont try to smile because you feel you have to smile. Learn to caliberate and understand what DD is trying to say.
But when it comes to the technique realm, he starts to detail everything HE does. The problem: what HE does may get chicks FOR HIM, but it can become silly as dope if I try it.
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Now I read the MindOverMatter reply. I left what I wrote first for anyone who's interested.
But I agree 101% with MindOverMatter. That's it. If you don't like yourself in the first place, no amount of just be yourself (which is the same as JUST BE A DORK when you're one) will solve your problem.
Let's forget these silly techniques a little bit. One day it will get old don't you think? What about you?
Become the person you want to be is the first thing you have to do to attract quality women. You can learn some SS/DYD/MyAssWhatever, but until you recognize and better yourself, all time learning this "techniques on women" is badly spent.
edit: not to mention you'll be here at SoSuave for ever asking questions everytime something unpredictable happens. True confidence comes from self-respect. "Smile/no smile", "talk like this/like that" will NOT bring that to you!
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
upcomingDJ
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1) smile a lot during the conversation, use kino, and all that friendly stuff
2) (on the same girl) don't smile as much, little or no kino, let her do most of the talking (acting as if she has to prove something to YOU)
after doing both, if she positively reciprocates on both behaviors then it doesn't matter, i used both and number closed easily.. OR if you're really good, you could try to mix both