I live on my own so all my expenses go to my house, bills food ect. and i am saving up for a vacation. I honestly dont mind walking and taking public transit, but no having a car just seems like dating will be a lot more difficult. Are any DJ's out there in a similar situation?
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Dating without a ride
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
backbreaker
Master Don Juan
when i first got clean off drugs about 8 years ago my friends basically just took my car keys from me for 6 months and they were right i would have went right back lol. but still i was without a car and I dated. At first i was kinda self concious about it, i'd let girls know i have a car i just can't drive now but **** after a while i really didn't ve a **** and neither did they. more than once a date and i walked to a resturant. i'd have girls drive me to the gym and one girl even would let me use her car while she was in nursing school as long as i picked her up when she got out. none of them could have cared less.
Harry Wilmington
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Here's the thing about not having a car: if she likes you and you're doing everything else right, you not having a car won't be a big deal to her. However, it will also be a gauge for you to find out when she starts LOSING interest - that's when you'll start hearing things like "oh, I wish you had a car" or "I wish I didn't have to do all the driving..."
Scars
Master Don Juan
Date a girl with a car and high interest.
It's kind of the same situation when I was younger living with my mom and couldn't bring girls over. I'd find girls that I could date that could have me over easily (whether it was cool parents or them living on their own.) Worked for me.
-Scars
It's kind of the same situation when I was younger living with my mom and couldn't bring girls over. I'd find girls that I could date that could have me over easily (whether it was cool parents or them living on their own.) Worked for me.
-Scars
sighsigh
Don Juan
She won't care. Just explain your reasonable reasons for not having a car.
You can ask her to meet you wherever you set up the date. It's probably best to do that anyways, car or not. It makes the date more casual (and hence fun) and you don't have to make small talk with her while driving. I actually don't see any advantage at all in driving her yourself to the date destination.
You can ask her to meet you wherever you set up the date. It's probably best to do that anyways, car or not. It makes the date more casual (and hence fun) and you don't have to make small talk with her while driving. I actually don't see any advantage at all in driving her yourself to the date destination.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
