"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Dating vs hookup

Foe

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This is silly.
She's not your gf, she didn't cheat on you, you're not in a relationship with her.
So much drama for a casual s3x/ connection.
You are essentially doing everything wrong to get what you actually want.

This woman is telling you she only wants a casual/FWB relationship with you. What's the problem with that?

Bang her and then continue dating until you find someone worthy of being in an LTR with. But based on your neediness it seems it will be the first woman that says "yes" to that and not based on any screening criteria from you.
100...and this is why women wonder where the real men are these days.

Men are constantly trying to fill the feminine role instead of the masculine roles with them.
Yeah look I get it guys, if I wanted a casual thing this would have been perfect, there have been times in my life where this is exactly what I wanted and I enjoyed those times. There are times though where casual becomes same/same, bang her enough, bang more woman enough and you get over it, well at least I do. I start to feel like something more. This girl was a great fit for me, so I invested and she didnt, so be it. I found out she was banging another guy and I bailed, if your idea of a real man is to ignore that I would challenge that notion.

I walked away, she might have pulled the trigger but I forced the situation knowing what would happen. Shes messaged a couple of times since but as a "unreal man" Im not going back. She wants to f$#k other guys behind my back then she can go find some "real men" who are comfortable with this.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Solomon

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So just started seeing this girl, she's been pretty light on time availability and apart from some restaurants we haven't really done any "dating" per say. Each time I try and setup something decent she tends to counter with coming over later at night and banging.

Now dont get me wrong there has been times in my life where this would be ideal but after smashing randos for the last few months Im kinda over it. Wouldnt mind something with a bit more substance. Not really getting a reading off this girl though, not sure if she's keen or just in it for the sex.

I've removed myself from dating apps, cut off my black book ties and trying to focus on this girl but it seems like its having a reverse effect. The more interest I show the more she seems disinterested. Any tips.
I'm curious OP how old is she?
 
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