"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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"Dating" someone in your dorm-does it work?

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I am a graduate student living in a co-ed graduate dorm. There is a girl who lives on the 5th floor (I am on the third) whom I am very attracted to.

The thing is, dating someone in a close knit community (where there is alot of drama and everyone knows your business) is a little too close for comfort.

Has anyone been in this situation before?

Do you keep it light (watch a movie together, just hook up) or try and date her (dinner, museums, etc.) like you would in a normal situation.

The problem with this environment is: All of the rules in normal dating etiquette (when to call etc, see each other again) are different in a dorm or work setting (since you will most likely run into the person quite often)
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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mahon83050 said:
I am a graduate student living in a co-ed graduate dorm. There is a girl who lives on the 5th floor (I am on the third) whom I am very attracted to.

The thing is, dating someone in a close knit community (where there is alot of drama and everyone knows your business) is a little too close for comfort.

Has anyone been in this situation before?

Do you keep it light (watch a movie together, just hook up) or try and date her (dinner, museums, etc.) like you would in a normal situation.

The problem with this environment is: All of the rules in normal dating etiquette (when to call etc, see each other again) are different in a dorm or work setting (since you will most likely run into the person quite often)
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I've been in this. It's "okay" as long as your friends don't know her friends.

Otherwise, you're screwed when things turn for the worse. Which they will at some point when you dump her or you get dumped.

Your best bet is to make friends with this chick and if she's got any cute girlfriends (which are SOMEWHERE ELSE) and use her for her connections.

Otherwise you're playing Russian roulette with your social proof if you go for a chick this close. And social proof and reputation is VERY IMPORTANT so be super-careful or don't do it in the first place.
 
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mahon83050 said:
I do see your point, but I forgot to mention...it is my last semester (I am done in December) and I should just go "balls to the wall".
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Oh WELL!! In THAT CASE!!

OOOOHHHH The Possibilities!!


You can do whatever the hell you WANT! ANYTHING!! With ANYONE!

You're NEVER going to see alot of these people again!


Party it UP! One chick a night, two chicks a night, three chicks at the same time.... WHATEVER!

Who's going to care? By the time word spreads around about you, you'll be LONG GONE with a big smile on your face.



The possibilities are ENDLESS because: You don't have to face ANY consequences. By the time they catch up, you won't be there to face them!



GOD SPEED SOLDIER!
 
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Keep in mind if you break up with her it could feel awkward if you see her. Thats the problem with close net communities like the workplace.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Freddy1 said:
Keep in mind if you break up with her it could feel awkward if you see her. Thats the problem with close net communities like the workplace.
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Yes. BUT!

It's his LAST SEMESTER!

Do you REALIZE the POSSIBILITIES?!! :up: :up:
 
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Yea, there is this 19 year old who approached me the other day, but she was giggling and being stupid with her friend.

She either A:

1.) Wants some action from an older guy
2.) Is a total tease and just looking to get attention.

Anyways, I know a 29 year old trying to hook up with a 19 year old is frowned down upon, but hell it is legal!!!
 
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Yes. BUT!

It's his LAST SEMESTER!

Do you REALIZE the POSSIBILITIES?!! :up: :up:
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hymmmm?!! Hey you might be on something here.
 
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mahon83050 said:
Yea, there is this 19 year old who approached me the other day, but she was giggling and being stupid with her friend.

She either A:

1.) Wants some action from an older guy
2.) Is a total tease and just looking to get attention.

Anyways, I know a 29 year old trying to hook up with a 19 year old is frowned down upon, but hell it is legal!!!
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DOOO HER!!! DO HER GOOD! And if you can GET HER FRIEND TOO! And her sister, and her MOM (if she's HOT). Do them ALL. And if you can, AT THE SAME TIME!
 
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