"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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"Dating" someone in your dorm-does it work?

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I am a graduate student living in a co-ed graduate dorm. There is a girl who lives on the 5th floor (I am on the third) whom I am very attracted to.

The thing is, dating someone in a close knit community (where there is alot of drama and everyone knows your business) is a little too close for comfort.

Has anyone been in this situation before?

Do you keep it light (watch a movie together, just hook up) or try and date her (dinner, museums, etc.) like you would in a normal situation.

The problem with this environment is: All of the rules in normal dating etiquette (when to call etc, see each other again) are different in a dorm or work setting (since you will most likely run into the person quite often)
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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mahon83050 said:
I am a graduate student living in a co-ed graduate dorm. There is a girl who lives on the 5th floor (I am on the third) whom I am very attracted to.

The thing is, dating someone in a close knit community (where there is alot of drama and everyone knows your business) is a little too close for comfort.

Has anyone been in this situation before?

Do you keep it light (watch a movie together, just hook up) or try and date her (dinner, museums, etc.) like you would in a normal situation.

The problem with this environment is: All of the rules in normal dating etiquette (when to call etc, see each other again) are different in a dorm or work setting (since you will most likely run into the person quite often)
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I've been in this. It's "okay" as long as your friends don't know her friends.

Otherwise, you're screwed when things turn for the worse. Which they will at some point when you dump her or you get dumped.

Your best bet is to make friends with this chick and if she's got any cute girlfriends (which are SOMEWHERE ELSE) and use her for her connections.

Otherwise you're playing Russian roulette with your social proof if you go for a chick this close. And social proof and reputation is VERY IMPORTANT so be super-careful or don't do it in the first place.
 
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I do see your point, but I forgot to mention...it is my last semester (I am done in December) and I should just go "balls to the wall".
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Oh WELL!! In THAT CASE!!

OOOOHHHH The Possibilities!!


You can do whatever the hell you WANT! ANYTHING!! With ANYONE!

You're NEVER going to see alot of these people again!


Party it UP! One chick a night, two chicks a night, three chicks at the same time.... WHATEVER!

Who's going to care? By the time word spreads around about you, you'll be LONG GONE with a big smile on your face.



The possibilities are ENDLESS because: You don't have to face ANY consequences. By the time they catch up, you won't be there to face them!



GOD SPEED SOLDIER!
 
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Keep in mind if you break up with her it could feel awkward if you see her. Thats the problem with close net communities like the workplace.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Keep in mind if you break up with her it could feel awkward if you see her. Thats the problem with close net communities like the workplace.
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Yes. BUT!

It's his LAST SEMESTER!

Do you REALIZE the POSSIBILITIES?!! :up: :up:
 
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Yea, there is this 19 year old who approached me the other day, but she was giggling and being stupid with her friend.

She either A:

1.) Wants some action from an older guy
2.) Is a total tease and just looking to get attention.

Anyways, I know a 29 year old trying to hook up with a 19 year old is frowned down upon, but hell it is legal!!!
 
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Yes. BUT!

It's his LAST SEMESTER!

Do you REALIZE the POSSIBILITIES?!! :up: :up:
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hymmmm?!! Hey you might be on something here.
 
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mahon83050 said:
Yea, there is this 19 year old who approached me the other day, but she was giggling and being stupid with her friend.

She either A:

1.) Wants some action from an older guy
2.) Is a total tease and just looking to get attention.

Anyways, I know a 29 year old trying to hook up with a 19 year old is frowned down upon, but hell it is legal!!!
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DOOO HER!!! DO HER GOOD! And if you can GET HER FRIEND TOO! And her sister, and her MOM (if she's HOT). Do them ALL. And if you can, AT THE SAME TIME!
 
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