"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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rydincoaster1

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There is this girl at Starbucks Coffee that I like and I think she
likes me because whenever I go there she smiles at me and asks me how
am I doing. Sometime she calls me sweetie. Well today I went in and I asked her "If you dont have a
boyfriend, I would like to ask you out" and she said "I do have a
boyfriend but you and me are cool" and then she smiled at me. Do you
think she is just playing or she really does have a boyfriend?
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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slowstang101

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IMO you approached it wrong. Ask her for her number, not if she has a bf. If she says i have a bf, you say... "i didnt ask you if you had a bf, i asked you for your number". Its a yes or no question.
 

WRX_is_like_SEX

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BTW . . .Just keep in mind that most Starbucks girls are dead friendly!:D ...And yes..The only way to find out is to play yr position and ask them out, or get their phone number . .Good luck and good hunting!:up:
 
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I think Starbucks only hires hot girls. It must be good for business because I see hot women working in all of them.
 

Wodan

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Always move on when they say that dude, she either does have one or doesnt want to be involved with you in that way, but yeah as one of the above posters mentioned there were better ways of going about it.

Well done for trying, many people dont and these first steps are the hardest, but yeah speak to a girl more before asking for her number, build a rappor then ask for her number :)


And to answer the question more directly, saying she has a bf... i wouldnt take that as playing.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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