"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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rydincoaster1

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There is this girl at Starbucks Coffee that I like and I think she
likes me because whenever I go there she smiles at me and asks me how
am I doing. Sometime she calls me sweetie. Well today I went in and I asked her "If you dont have a
boyfriend, I would like to ask you out" and she said "I do have a
boyfriend but you and me are cool" and then she smiled at me. Do you
think she is just playing or she really does have a boyfriend?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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slowstang101

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IMO you approached it wrong. Ask her for her number, not if she has a bf. If she says i have a bf, you say... "i didnt ask you if you had a bf, i asked you for your number". Its a yes or no question.
 

WRX_is_like_SEX

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BTW . . .Just keep in mind that most Starbucks girls are dead friendly!:D ...And yes..The only way to find out is to play yr position and ask them out, or get their phone number . .Good luck and good hunting!:up:
 
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I think Starbucks only hires hot girls. It must be good for business because I see hot women working in all of them.
 

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Always move on when they say that dude, she either does have one or doesnt want to be involved with you in that way, but yeah as one of the above posters mentioned there were better ways of going about it.

Well done for trying, many people dont and these first steps are the hardest, but yeah speak to a girl more before asking for her number, build a rappor then ask for her number :)


And to answer the question more directly, saying she has a bf... i wouldnt take that as playing.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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