"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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rydincoaster1

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There is this girl at Starbucks Coffee that I like and I think she
likes me because whenever I go there she smiles at me and asks me how
am I doing. Sometime she calls me sweetie. Well today I went in and I asked her "If you dont have a
boyfriend, I would like to ask you out" and she said "I do have a
boyfriend but you and me are cool" and then she smiled at me. Do you
think she is just playing or she really does have a boyfriend?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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slowstang101

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IMO you approached it wrong. Ask her for her number, not if she has a bf. If she says i have a bf, you say... "i didnt ask you if you had a bf, i asked you for your number". Its a yes or no question.
 

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BTW . . .Just keep in mind that most Starbucks girls are dead friendly!:D ...And yes..The only way to find out is to play yr position and ask them out, or get their phone number . .Good luck and good hunting!:up:
 
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I think Starbucks only hires hot girls. It must be good for business because I see hot women working in all of them.
 

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Always move on when they say that dude, she either does have one or doesnt want to be involved with you in that way, but yeah as one of the above posters mentioned there were better ways of going about it.

Well done for trying, many people dont and these first steps are the hardest, but yeah speak to a girl more before asking for her number, build a rappor then ask for her number :)


And to answer the question more directly, saying she has a bf... i wouldnt take that as playing.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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