Dating on a low budget

[andreihaha]

I have kind of a short-term loan to pay so I'll only have like 20% of my income available for the next 4 months.
How do you deal with dating and not a lot of money?

 

[HyenaPrince]

I have kind of a short-term loan to pay so I'll only have like 20% of my income available for the next 4 months.
How do you deal with dating and not a lot of money?

Go for a walk, quick coffee, then off to your or her place. Doesn't matter where you go as long as she's into you. The budget thing is the least important part.

 

[AttackFormation]

Why would you be spending money on dating in the first place? what would you normally pay for in dating?

 

[andreihaha]

Why would you be spending money on dating in the first place? what would you normally pay for in dating?

Drinks and maybe an Uber for a first date.
But if things go well with a woman, other expenses occur as normal.

 

[AttackFormation]

Drinks and maybe an Uber for a first date.
But if things go well with a woman, other expenses occur as normal.

Right, so you are buying her drinks, uber and "other expenses"?

 

[GearsGod310]

Depends on the girl. If she's interested she'll do w.e the hell you program.. just make sure it's fun. Never take a girl out to dinner on the first date. First date I always do drinks at happy hour.

 

[sangheilios]

I'm not sure where you live, so cost of activities and living will vary obviously. Also, with corona a lot of things are closed down or are heavily modified.

I feel that unless you are in a relationship with a woman that there is NO reason to spend much at all, even if you are in a relationship you shouldn't have to. One of the things I've done several times for a first date was mini golf. There is a particular place that I went to that I've gone on these dates and it ran to like 17 bucks for myself and the woman I was with, whole thing you could stretch to about an hour which is perfect.

I think hiking can be a good idea but I don't think a lot of women would be up for it with a man who is still more or less a stranger.

Another one could be bowling. I've never taken a date bowling but when I've gone out with friends it was like 15 dollars for something that stretched well over an hour.

Other stuff could be like going to a bar and playing pool.

I feel dates that just don't involve sitting there talking but instead incorporate some sort of activity are generally better for me, though I haven't gone on a date in over a year. I feel more expensive things like taking a girl out to dinner and such are more for well after the first date when she is possible relationship material.

 

[andreihaha]

Right, so you are buying her drinks, uber and "other expenses"?

Nahh, I usually split the expenses with most dates.

The thing is, my budget right now will allow me to go to 6-7 dates a month or so. Which doesn't feel like much if I meet the right person.
But just by reading the replies, I can find a few ways to cut expenses. Like drinks at happy hour. I mean, once things get a little more serious, dates at my/her place should be fine.

Other suggestions are welcome.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Netflix and chill

 

[BackInTheGame78]

I have kind of a short-term loan to pay so I'll only have like 20% of my income available for the next 4 months.
How do you deal with dating and not a lot of money?

Walk and talk then ice cream.
Invite them over to cook dinner with you. She will likely offer to bring wine/drinks.

 

[Murk]

Tell her to come directly to your place for a few drinks. Speak to her on the phone beforehand to ice break, charm her and let her know you are not a murderer - videocall if needs be.

You don't have to leave your home or spend money for anything. I had a girl uber 50 minutes to my house and brought a litre of vodka. She left after 2 hours, I kept the vodka and also caught chlamydia.

But I didn't spend a penny.

 

[GioWolf]

Tell her to come directly to your place for a few drinks. Speak to her on the phone beforehand to ice break, charm her and let her know you are not a murderer - videocall if needs be.

You don't have to leave your home or spend money for anything. I had a girl uber 50 minutes to my house and brought a litre of vodka. She left after 2 hours, I kept the vodka and also caught chlamydia.

But I didn't spend a penny.

no co-pay at the Dr?

 

[corrector]

Ask her to pay for everything.

 

[Murk]

no co-pay at the Dr?

I can go to my clinic without an appointment and get piss & blood tests on the spot and treatment the next day, all free

 

[Focal core]

Nahh, I usually split the expenses with most dates.

The thing is, my budget right now will allow me to go to 6-7 dates a month or so. Which doesn't feel like much if I meet the right person.
But just by reading the replies, I can find a few ways to cut expenses. Like drinks at happy hour. I mean, once things get a little more serious, dates at my/her place should be fine.

Other suggestions are welcome.

Suggest an exciting activities with her that involves less money, go for hiking, think beaches, events exhibitions, least go for movies and dinner after on.

 

[Murk]

Museums and art galleries are great too. I love art, always have and live in London so I have taken a few dates to art galleries which are free or very cheap entry, you can skip the overpriced wine if you're broke.

My advice is to get your money up then date. Myself personally, I worry and stress too much to be using up my spare cash on stupid women, but I did spend lots of time and money doing that previously so I dont blame you

Make them pay half of everything, or alternate, if they dont want to do that they are not worth LTR

 

[Lookatu]

Go for a walk, quick coffee, then off to your or her place. Doesn't matter where you go as long as she's into you. The budget thing is the least important part.

This. One of the few good things to come from Covid are cheap dates and something you can easily justify.
My go to has been coffee and walk in the park for all first dates. I might go for a bite of food during the first date and venue change if I feel the date is going well. If it's going really well, then obviously it's back to her place.

Depending on your pre-date interactions, you could always invite them over to your place for a home cooked dinner too. Find something really delicious but easy to make and cheap to source. I've done this too and have managed to created some awesome meals for under $10 total including the wine.

If the gal raises a stink to a walk, you could always tell them that you're not totally comfortable being around others in a crowd situation like in bars/restaurants due to Covid fears. This is an easy out.

I know there's a LOT of gold digger, free dinner queens suffering now because of Covid. LOL

 

[Dam44]

Tell her to come directly to your place for a few drinks. Speak to her on the phone beforehand to ice break, charm her and let her know you are not a murderer - videocall if needs be.

You don't have to leave your home or spend money for anything. I had a girl uber 50 minutes to my house and brought a litre of vodka. She left after 2 hours, I kept the vodka and also caught chlamydia.

But I didn't spend a penny.

The plot twist lol

 

[Visionist]

Never spend money on women.

The most expensive thing a woman should cost you is a hotel room to fûck her insides out. Nothing else.

 

[Solomon]

OP you're telling me you can't quit dating for 4 months? I gave up Dating in 2018 completely I went on a 6 month stretch with no a$$
and guess what it was worth it, I made the most money I ever made in my life and than I got laid after lol