"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Dating multiple women... pros and cons

Francisco d'Anconia

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Re: The only real "con"

Originally posted by Bonhomme
The only real 'con" to dating multiple women is if 2 or more of them are more-or-less in a "dead heat," and things are getting pretty intimate. Then it can be difficult to choose.
Huh???:confused: ???? If a couple are in a dead heat and things are getting intimate, you pick the better lay! :rolleyes:
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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It's the idea of juggling dozens of women that is killing these boys.

If one has the innate natural ability to do that he wouldn't be on-line menstrauting asking the dumbest questions and lashing out against women like a lil' *****.

I just think most guys don't have what it takes and the rest are going crazy ,breaking their backs trynna live up to fantasy world created by the first bacth of posters.

Alot of guys wanna live that DJ life..but if you're already deep into your 20's or 30's...don't you think it would've come to you before?

Guys need to live their own life instead of asking everyone what to do... instead of conforming to some self-adjusting philosphy..figure things out by yourself.

That's what's going on most cats wanna get laid but their told that's not what's it about and their over-complicating their whole life by trynna be Superman.
 

Bonhomme

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Really, Francisco?

Huh??? ???? If a couple are in a dead heat and things are getting intimate, you pick the better lay!
Was that a joke, Francisco? There are so many more things to a gal, and sometimes even how good a lay they are is an apples vs. oranges thing.

Depends what you want. For example, if given a choice between a gal who occasionally smokes who's a slightly better lay than a more compatible non-smoker, I'd go with the more compatible non-smoker. That would be an easy one to resolve, because there's a good reason.

This spring I chose a gal who had a sky-high interest level over another who I was more attracted to. Took the bird in the hand over 1.5 who might have stayed in the trees.

But my real point was that there are pretty much all "pros" to multiple dating... The problem is in managing to have more than one gal you're interested in that's also interested in you. I'm pretty picky as far as chemistry goes.

For me, it's usually several or zero. Right now, the only gal who really appears interested in me is one I have little interest in, and haven't called, though she gave me her # without my asking for it. Another booty possibility is a long-distance gal that plans to visit next month, but long distance doesn't count.

Feast or famine...
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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Re: Really, Francisco?

Originally posted by Bonhomme
Was that a joke, Francisco? There are so many more things to a gal, and sometimes even how good a lay they are is an apples vs. oranges thing.

Depends what you want. For example, if given a choice between a gal who occasionally smokes who's a slightly better lay than a more compatible non-smoker, I'd go with the more compatible non-smoker. That would be an easy one to resolve, because there's a good reason.

This spring I chose a gal who had a sky-high interest level over another who I was more attracted to. Took the bird in the hand over 1.5 who might have stayed in the trees.

But my real point was that there are pretty much all "pros" to multiple dating... The problem is in managing to have more than one gal you're interested in that's also interested in you. I'm pretty picky as far as chemistry goes.

For me, it's usually several or zero. Right now, the only gal who really appears interested in me is one I have little interest in, and haven't called, though she gave me her # without my asking for it. Another booty possibility is a long-distance gal that plans to visit next month, but long distance doesn't count.

Feast or famine...
They are in a 'dead heat,' equal in all ways... Both have the same qualities which you enjoy, how else would you choose?
 

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OK, I see

Got you now, toss-up goes to the better lay ... unless that is an apples vs. oranges toss-up.

But again, it's a rhetorical point. The winner has always made herself clear. So, for practical purposes there are no cons to multiple dating.

On that note, time to go and get a bit of rest before hitting the club.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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A local guy once said:
"When you have too many women you have too few and when you have one that's one too many"
 
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