"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Dating multiple etiquette

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So Ive been on two dates with two girls. One didn't send messages for a few days so I setup a date with the other, I get messages during the date all pissy and saying how she's a lesbian now congrats or something to that effect.

We never had any discussion on seeing anyone else etc. I know if I liked a girl I would be pissed to realise they were dating other people too but am I the bad guy here?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Foe said:
So Ive been on two dates with two girls. One didn't send messages for a few days so I setup a date with the other, I get messages during the date all pissy and saying how she's a lesbian now congrats or something to that effect.
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Wow, girls turn lesbian at the drop of a hat these days, don't they?

Anyway, as you said, you had no discussion about seeing other people, so she has no real reason to be angry. If she's reasonable, she will realize that.
 
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Foe said:
So Ive been on two dates with two girls. One didn't send messages for a few days so I setup a date with the other, I get messages during the date all pissy and saying how she's a lesbian now congrats or something to that effect.

We never had any discussion on seeing anyone else etc. I know if I liked a girl I would be pissed to realise they were dating other people too but am I the bad guy here?
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Nah, this is a common misconception. Only weak dudes with no options lock themselves down of their own doing after a date or two. Imagine a wild stallion running inside a barn and locking the door behind it? That's what you are essentially doing. It just looks and feels weird to a woman.

If they claim they expect that then really they are seeing how easy you are to manipulate and control. Giving in shows them you are easily manipulated and controlled. They might enjoy it for a while but their lack of respect for you will lead them to end up despising you after the novelty wears off.

She needs to earn exclusivity and she can't do that simply by going on a date or two or even by sleeping with her.

Develop some standards and make them meet them.
 
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