"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Dating multiple etiquette

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So Ive been on two dates with two girls. One didn't send messages for a few days so I setup a date with the other, I get messages during the date all pissy and saying how she's a lesbian now congrats or something to that effect.

We never had any discussion on seeing anyone else etc. I know if I liked a girl I would be pissed to realise they were dating other people too but am I the bad guy here?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Foe said:
So Ive been on two dates with two girls. One didn't send messages for a few days so I setup a date with the other, I get messages during the date all pissy and saying how she's a lesbian now congrats or something to that effect.
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Wow, girls turn lesbian at the drop of a hat these days, don't they?

Anyway, as you said, you had no discussion about seeing other people, so she has no real reason to be angry. If she's reasonable, she will realize that.
 
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Foe said:
So Ive been on two dates with two girls. One didn't send messages for a few days so I setup a date with the other, I get messages during the date all pissy and saying how she's a lesbian now congrats or something to that effect.

We never had any discussion on seeing anyone else etc. I know if I liked a girl I would be pissed to realise they were dating other people too but am I the bad guy here?
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Nah, this is a common misconception. Only weak dudes with no options lock themselves down of their own doing after a date or two. Imagine a wild stallion running inside a barn and locking the door behind it? That's what you are essentially doing. It just looks and feels weird to a woman.

If they claim they expect that then really they are seeing how easy you are to manipulate and control. Giving in shows them you are easily manipulated and controlled. They might enjoy it for a while but their lack of respect for you will lead them to end up despising you after the novelty wears off.

She needs to earn exclusivity and she can't do that simply by going on a date or two or even by sleeping with her.

Develop some standards and make them meet them.
 
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