Dating in germany as a male with russian roots

[summersky]

I was a child when we migrated to germany, I have russian roots. I am 173 cm tall and would say that I am average looking but I look different than the most germans. Due to my russian roots I have a wide forehead and a wide midface. The most people I meet can immediately tell that I am not a german and tell me I look russian. I was bullied a lot because I look different and I know some germans have a bad opinion about people from russia. Never had much success with german girls and I think it is because of my "different" looks. Most german girls go for german guys I think. Not many go for russian guys. I had much more success with black, asian, russian and ukrainian girls. But there are not that many of them here. When I tell friends about my experiences, they say that it has nothing to do with my "different" looks and that I have equal chances with german girls. But I think there is some truth to my assumptions. What do you think?

Thinking about moving to another country or going for escorts for the rest of my life.

Regards
summersky

 

[BackInTheGame78]

More so because you lack confidence in yourself than anything else I would suspect.

 

[summersky]

That's what my friends also say but why do I have success with foreign girls and none with german girls?

 

[Clockwerk50]

For most people, having things in common matters more than being different. Shared language, culture, humor, upbringing, and values make people feel more comfortable and connected. So if these German women aren't especially attracted to foreigners, being Russian by itself probably won't give you much of an advantage. Unless you're bringing something else to the table besides being different, your background alone probably won't create attraction. Most people are looking for someone whose personality complements their own or fulfills an emotional need, not simply someone who is foreign.

There is only a small group of people in any community who actively seek out what's foreign or exotic. They often become fascinated with people from other cultures because they see them as exciting, different, or an escape from the ordinary and their lifes. They tend to project fantasies onto foreigners, valuing the idea of them as much as the person themselves. Again, if you're not naturally fitting into that “exotic” image for them, or if these German women aren't wired that way, then your background won't carry much weight on its own.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

That's what my friends also say but why do I have success with foreign girls and none with german girls?

Because you have created a self fulfilling prophecy for yourself.

Your belief system causes your subconscious mind to find ways to achieve what you believe in that regard so you are likely doing things differently without noticing in those situations and causing yourself worse results because of it.