lifemisspent
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What's the DJ protocol on this type of stuff ?
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Dating for two weeks, should I buy her something for x-mas ?
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
If you don't want to, then don't. Always make moves from your deepest instinct. If your gut says its too soon but you feel "pressure" to do so, examine where that pressure is coming from. Is it because you feel that you owe her since you are dating/sexing her? Just because it's christmas? Dating is it's own reward...you don't have to pay to play.
If you feel you want to just from a core of selflessness, and because you just really want to, follow biggies advices. 2 weeks, you really don't even know her..you just like the idea of her so don't go overboard, something small.
If you feel you want to just from a core of selflessness, and because you just really want to, follow biggies advices. 2 weeks, you really don't even know her..you just like the idea of her so don't go overboard, something small.
sketchy
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dont feel you 'have to' because its xmas, and if you do, something small without too much meaning behind it.
teacha
Senior Don Juan
is she buying you one?
Anyways, you've been dating for ONLY two weeks only so my advice is NO dont buy her one instead just give her a call or send a text message just saying,'merry christmas.'
Anyways, you've been dating for ONLY two weeks only so my advice is NO dont buy her one instead just give her a call or send a text message just saying,'merry christmas.'
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
AlmostThere!
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No, don't buy her a Christmas present. And typing x-mas saves 5 letters. Wow. Unless you're anti-God and don't want to spell Christ.
lifemisspent
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Re:
We were talking for about 2 weeks until we finally went out in person, last night she came over for a fourth date and things went pretty well. Up until yesterday I would have said no, but Im gonna try to find her something small I guess. Im pretty sure she is getting me something, she hinted at it.
We were talking for about 2 weeks until we finally went out in person, last night she came over for a fourth date and things went pretty well. Up until yesterday I would have said no, but Im gonna try to find her something small I guess. Im pretty sure she is getting me something, she hinted at it.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
