lifemisspent
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What's the DJ protocol on this type of stuff ?
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Dating for two weeks, should I buy her something for x-mas ?
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
If you don't want to, then don't. Always make moves from your deepest instinct. If your gut says its too soon but you feel "pressure" to do so, examine where that pressure is coming from. Is it because you feel that you owe her since you are dating/sexing her? Just because it's christmas? Dating is it's own reward...you don't have to pay to play.
If you feel you want to just from a core of selflessness, and because you just really want to, follow biggies advices. 2 weeks, you really don't even know her..you just like the idea of her so don't go overboard, something small.
If you feel you want to just from a core of selflessness, and because you just really want to, follow biggies advices. 2 weeks, you really don't even know her..you just like the idea of her so don't go overboard, something small.
sketchy
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dont feel you 'have to' because its xmas, and if you do, something small without too much meaning behind it.
teacha
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is she buying you one?
Anyways, you've been dating for ONLY two weeks only so my advice is NO dont buy her one instead just give her a call or send a text message just saying,'merry christmas.'
Anyways, you've been dating for ONLY two weeks only so my advice is NO dont buy her one instead just give her a call or send a text message just saying,'merry christmas.'
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
AlmostThere!
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No, don't buy her a Christmas present. And typing x-mas saves 5 letters. Wow. Unless you're anti-God and don't want to spell Christ.
lifemisspent
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Re:
We were talking for about 2 weeks until we finally went out in person, last night she came over for a fourth date and things went pretty well. Up until yesterday I would have said no, but Im gonna try to find her something small I guess. Im pretty sure she is getting me something, she hinted at it.
We were talking for about 2 weeks until we finally went out in person, last night she came over for a fourth date and things went pretty well. Up until yesterday I would have said no, but Im gonna try to find her something small I guess. Im pretty sure she is getting me something, she hinted at it.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
