lifemisspent
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What's the DJ protocol on this type of stuff ?
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Dating for two weeks, should I buy her something for x-mas ?
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
If you don't want to, then don't. Always make moves from your deepest instinct. If your gut says its too soon but you feel "pressure" to do so, examine where that pressure is coming from. Is it because you feel that you owe her since you are dating/sexing her? Just because it's christmas? Dating is it's own reward...you don't have to pay to play.
If you feel you want to just from a core of selflessness, and because you just really want to, follow biggies advices. 2 weeks, you really don't even know her..you just like the idea of her so don't go overboard, something small.
If you feel you want to just from a core of selflessness, and because you just really want to, follow biggies advices. 2 weeks, you really don't even know her..you just like the idea of her so don't go overboard, something small.
sketchy
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dont feel you 'have to' because its xmas, and if you do, something small without too much meaning behind it.
teacha
Senior Don Juan
is she buying you one?
Anyways, you've been dating for ONLY two weeks only so my advice is NO dont buy her one instead just give her a call or send a text message just saying,'merry christmas.'
Anyways, you've been dating for ONLY two weeks only so my advice is NO dont buy her one instead just give her a call or send a text message just saying,'merry christmas.'
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
AlmostThere!
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No, don't buy her a Christmas present. And typing x-mas saves 5 letters. Wow. Unless you're anti-God and don't want to spell Christ.
lifemisspent
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We were talking for about 2 weeks until we finally went out in person, last night she came over for a fourth date and things went pretty well. Up until yesterday I would have said no, but Im gonna try to find her something small I guess. Im pretty sure she is getting me something, she hinted at it.
We were talking for about 2 weeks until we finally went out in person, last night she came over for a fourth date and things went pretty well. Up until yesterday I would have said no, but Im gonna try to find her something small I guess. Im pretty sure she is getting me something, she hinted at it.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
