Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
whats LTR?PeterNorthisawesome said:Problem is once you do anything with her it spreads like crazy and if your manager finds out... ITS BAD! you can get fired for it. I try not to flirt with any of my coworkers but can't help it cuz there's like 20 HBs! one girl is an attention ***** though she flirts/kino EVERYGUY (including me) at work... which gets annoying. O well make sure if you have a LTR and it doesn't work your ready to leave cuz it'll be VERY awkward.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
THanksSean O said:whats LTR?
LTR stands for long term relationship.
I didnt think you could get fired for dating co-workers. I know that dating managers was a big noPeterNorthisawesome said:Problem is once you do anything with her it spreads like crazy and if your manager finds out... ITS BAD! you can get fired for it. I try not to flirt with any of my coworkers but can't help it cuz there's like 20 HBs! one girl is an attention ***** though she flirts/kino EVERYGUY (including me) at work... which gets annoying. O well make sure if you have a LTR and it doesn't work your ready to leave cuz it'll be VERY awkward.
Yea the girl i mentioned above seems pretty cool, but I want to make sure Im not analyzing. Of course worrying about doing that might be an AFC thing to doEmbrace said:Careful having LTR with co-workers. A chick friend/ co-worker of mine was with one of the managers at a grocery store I work at.. everything is really ****ty between them now. Him being the manager really has no control over her at the workplace because she'll punish him outside of work.
It just makes things weird, thats why you get fired if you're going out with anyone at the workplace.. its not a good idea.
But do whatever you want to do, depending on where yo uwork, make sure the no one knows so you dont get in trouble
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.