She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
whats LTR?PeterNorthisawesome said:Problem is once you do anything with her it spreads like crazy and if your manager finds out... ITS BAD! you can get fired for it. I try not to flirt with any of my coworkers but can't help it cuz there's like 20 HBs! one girl is an attention ***** though she flirts/kino EVERYGUY (including me) at work... which gets annoying. O well make sure if you have a LTR and it doesn't work your ready to leave cuz it'll be VERY awkward.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
THanksSean O said:whats LTR?
LTR stands for long term relationship.
I didnt think you could get fired for dating co-workers. I know that dating managers was a big noPeterNorthisawesome said:Problem is once you do anything with her it spreads like crazy and if your manager finds out... ITS BAD! you can get fired for it. I try not to flirt with any of my coworkers but can't help it cuz there's like 20 HBs! one girl is an attention ***** though she flirts/kino EVERYGUY (including me) at work... which gets annoying. O well make sure if you have a LTR and it doesn't work your ready to leave cuz it'll be VERY awkward.
Yea the girl i mentioned above seems pretty cool, but I want to make sure Im not analyzing. Of course worrying about doing that might be an AFC thing to doEmbrace said:Careful having LTR with co-workers. A chick friend/ co-worker of mine was with one of the managers at a grocery store I work at.. everything is really ****ty between them now. Him being the manager really has no control over her at the workplace because she'll punish him outside of work.
It just makes things weird, thats why you get fired if you're going out with anyone at the workplace.. its not a good idea.
But do whatever you want to do, depending on where yo uwork, make sure the no one knows so you dont get in trouble
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.