That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
whats LTR?PeterNorthisawesome said:Problem is once you do anything with her it spreads like crazy and if your manager finds out... ITS BAD! you can get fired for it. I try not to flirt with any of my coworkers but can't help it cuz there's like 20 HBs! one girl is an attention ***** though she flirts/kino EVERYGUY (including me) at work... which gets annoying. O well make sure if you have a LTR and it doesn't work your ready to leave cuz it'll be VERY awkward.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
THanksSean O said:whats LTR?
LTR stands for long term relationship.
I didnt think you could get fired for dating co-workers. I know that dating managers was a big noPeterNorthisawesome said:Problem is once you do anything with her it spreads like crazy and if your manager finds out... ITS BAD! you can get fired for it. I try not to flirt with any of my coworkers but can't help it cuz there's like 20 HBs! one girl is an attention ***** though she flirts/kino EVERYGUY (including me) at work... which gets annoying. O well make sure if you have a LTR and it doesn't work your ready to leave cuz it'll be VERY awkward.
Yea the girl i mentioned above seems pretty cool, but I want to make sure Im not analyzing. Of course worrying about doing that might be an AFC thing to doEmbrace said:Careful having LTR with co-workers. A chick friend/ co-worker of mine was with one of the managers at a grocery store I work at.. everything is really ****ty between them now. Him being the manager really has no control over her at the workplace because she'll punish him outside of work.
It just makes things weird, thats why you get fired if you're going out with anyone at the workplace.. its not a good idea.
But do whatever you want to do, depending on where yo uwork, make sure the no one knows so you dont get in trouble
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.