TheMoonMonst3r
Don Juan
Im a white guy and Ive been with a ABC girl for 7 months now. I was just wondering if there are other guys out there in my situation or a support group or something to talk about all the retarded little things she does.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Dating an ABC
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“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
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Don Juan
what is ABC ?
bhsdt97
Don Juan
Wait,when you say ABC do you mean American Born Chinese?
If so..then I've never been in your position before.
However, I do have experience with what people commonly refer to as ABCDS(American Born Confused Desis).
If so..then I've never been in your position before.
However, I do have experience with what people commonly refer to as ABCDS(American Born Confused Desis).
TheMoonMonst3r
Don Juan
ABC = American Born Chinese
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Don Juan
what retarded things? more details
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
TheMoonMonst3r
Don Juan
1) At dim sum (chinese tea-lunch) with her parents the other day, I took a little sticky-rice wrap (there were four...). Apparently I was supposed to share that with everyone else instead of taking my own. She said later in the car that that's the type of thing might make her parents think "Oh he's just a dumb white guy, he will never adapt to our culture". I was like WTF
2) She gave me a sob-story yesterday about how she's a minority and what it's like to feel hated...blah blah blah. I said sorry for all that stuff she's experienced. But I lived in China for 3.5 months with her, where I was the only white person within a 5 mile radius. She said that's different, cuz everyone likes me over there.
3) She seriously ****ing burnt popcorn in my house, and now my house smells funky.
2) She gave me a sob-story yesterday about how she's a minority and what it's like to feel hated...blah blah blah. I said sorry for all that stuff she's experienced. But I lived in China for 3.5 months with her, where I was the only white person within a 5 mile radius. She said that's different, cuz everyone likes me over there.
3) She seriously ****ing burnt popcorn in my house, and now my house smells funky.
true romance
Don Juan
I dont see these things as roadblock...cultural difference..does these issues bother you a lot?
what do you want with this girl ?
Bang?
if she hot and fun
Continue to seduce, flirt have fun...
ignore the rest
1) watch before you jump..so let her take inititative when you are at dinner/dim sum ..observe for next time
2) If she feel hated, give her love that she needs..
3) she burnt popcorn..make her clean you kitchen in bikini...
what do you want with this girl ?
Bang?
if she hot and fun
Continue to seduce, flirt have fun...
ignore the rest
1) watch before you jump..so let her take inititative when you are at dinner/dim sum ..observe for next time
2) If she feel hated, give her love that she needs..
3) she burnt popcorn..make her clean you kitchen in bikini...
Ken785
Master Don Juan
How old are you? You gotta try to adapt to Asian culture...after 7 months has she not taught you anything? In Asian culture you have to be super respectful. Its different then American. If it bothers you so much you gotta weigh things out whether you want to stay with this girl or not.
If the problems outweigh the good things in the relationship...then you need to leave the relationship. Things like this will occur if you date races outside of your cultural background so learn to adapt or just date white girls.
If the problems outweigh the good things in the relationship...then you need to leave the relationship. Things like this will occur if you date races outside of your cultural background so learn to adapt or just date white girls.
Being_the_Don
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Maybe you want an FOB. :crackup: Actually a lot AFs are high maintenance and feel entitled so if you don't like it just dump them.TheMoonMonst3r said:Im a white guy and Ive been with a ABC girl for 7 months now. I was just wondering if there are other guys out there in my situation or a support group or something to talk about all the retarded little things she does.
ready123
Master Don Juan
if he's crying over popcorn, I don't think he'd be able to handle a fob
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
TheMoonMonst3r
Don Juan
She is the first Asian girl Ive been with, and I've been with ~10 other white American/European girls previously. Backpacking around Asia had such a profound experience on my life...especially China, and I would like to continue the culture I learned over there and adapt to be good boyfriend, whatever she sees that as. I am learning a lot of 國語 (Mandarin) and Chinese culture (I was there for fuggin 3.5 months..), but it really disappointing when she says stuff like "you will never fit in, you are just like the other dumb 外國人 (white ppl)".
Any ABCs or white guys who have dated ABCs to clue me in? Or does it not even matter?
Any ABCs or white guys who have dated ABCs to clue me in? Or does it not even matter?
A friend of mine is Asian. Her boyfriend did a very wise thing: he approached the parents. Introduced himself, and then told them that he knew very little of their culture, especially when it came to daily habits. So he told them, that if he ever did anything wrong, or they felt irritated by his behaviour, they should simply ask him about it.
They did and they never had much problems. Most of the time, if he does something they find weird, they'll laugh about it and that's it. They accept him, because he showed respect.
My advice: talk to the parents. And research the region her parents are from.
They did and they never had much problems. Most of the time, if he does something they find weird, they'll laugh about it and that's it. They accept him, because he showed respect.
My advice: talk to the parents. And research the region her parents are from.