"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Dating a Girl You Are Not Interested In

A Sharp Pencil

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So here is my situation... any help would be appreciated.

Background info:
I am currently a senior in HS, and I've got some things working for me: I go to the gym, I've got lots of friends, I'm starting to understand how to be confident and stop being a nice guy. Then I got some things working against me: I'm not exactly gorgeous (I'm Asian, albeit a decent looking Asian), I've only had 1 GF before, which lasted for about 2 months, and I'm still not close to becoming a DJ.

So there is this girl who basically likes me, we were friends for some time, but never really close. She suddenly started attaching herself to me and her friends tell me she likes me. She looks nice (7 ~ 7.5) but I just don't find her dating material for some reason. I wouldn't mind banging her, but she clearly wants more than that.

Is it wrong for me to just stick around for the sexual benefits? She hasn't brought anything up, but I think she now considers us a couple. Should I just tell her straight up I'm not looking for a relationship with her, or can I just go for the ride until something better comes up? Because that's one of the reasons why I'm still willing to stick with this; I have no better option at the moment.

Thanks in advance for any suggestions/comments.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Bvbidd

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You have to realize you'll only be dating girls your not interested in, as if you were they wouldn't be interested in you, as a rule.
 

Maxtro

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Do every thing you want with her but make sure she knows that you don't want to get too serious with her.

I could have had a lot more fun if I dated girls that I wasn't really interested in. Instead of not dating the girls I was interested in.
 
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