"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Dating a Girl You Are Not Interested In

A Sharp Pencil

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So here is my situation... any help would be appreciated.

Background info:
I am currently a senior in HS, and I've got some things working for me: I go to the gym, I've got lots of friends, I'm starting to understand how to be confident and stop being a nice guy. Then I got some things working against me: I'm not exactly gorgeous (I'm Asian, albeit a decent looking Asian), I've only had 1 GF before, which lasted for about 2 months, and I'm still not close to becoming a DJ.

So there is this girl who basically likes me, we were friends for some time, but never really close. She suddenly started attaching herself to me and her friends tell me she likes me. She looks nice (7 ~ 7.5) but I just don't find her dating material for some reason. I wouldn't mind banging her, but she clearly wants more than that.

Is it wrong for me to just stick around for the sexual benefits? She hasn't brought anything up, but I think she now considers us a couple. Should I just tell her straight up I'm not looking for a relationship with her, or can I just go for the ride until something better comes up? Because that's one of the reasons why I'm still willing to stick with this; I have no better option at the moment.

Thanks in advance for any suggestions/comments.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Bvbidd

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You have to realize you'll only be dating girls your not interested in, as if you were they wouldn't be interested in you, as a rule.
 

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Do every thing you want with her but make sure she knows that you don't want to get too serious with her.

I could have had a lot more fun if I dated girls that I wasn't really interested in. Instead of not dating the girls I was interested in.
 
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