dating a girl but I dont want a serious relationship with her

[pyros]

How do you handle when you're 'dating' a girl for a few months but because of a few red flags about her, you dont want her to be your girlfriend because you think it is not a good investment?

I mean, you click, you like her etc, but she has some downsides like: she drinks too much, or she's still in contact with her ex, or... I dont know...she just wants to be with you and she doesnt want to have any friends..or several of these issues all at once.
Do you get what I mean?

All those red flags are "potential problems". You dont have any real problems now, but you think they will become an issue at some point in the future.

Do you end it because you think they will result in trouble?
Am I over-reacting?

 

[xstang77]

Honestly man, if you like the girl ride it out, don't commit to anything but just see how she handles herself in say a few more months.

 

[dustmuffin]

Honestly man, if you like the girl ride it out, don't commit to anything but just see how she handles herself in say a few more months.

This ^^^^^^ see where it goes. You can always eject at a later date.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Honestly man, if you like the girl ride it out, don't commit to anything but just see how she handles herself in say a few more months.

YES. Sometimes they line up with you and mirror some of your actions and behaviors or you maybe a "good" example. So some of that crap will fall off with time.

 

[hockeyfreak79]

A true DJ knows when it is time to move on.
That's probably the biggest lesson I've learned coming here, that and fvck no to single mommies. It may be a cop out but it's always better to dump than be dumped. I think that's the most important detail inexperienced guys can't comprehend. See the signs first and move on. Next already!

Now I get it, you already thought about it and have seen the flags and you know she's not LTR material.

If she pulls an ultimatum, you end it and move on, simple as that. From what I remember I'm pretty sure she's under 25 so expect some drama and heart break when you do it.

The obvious signs are less bj's and or sex. That's my 2 cents.

 

[sazc]

@pyros you've listed a few tings that make you uncomfortable with this female. Why are you struggling with letting her go? What is stopping you from following thru and letting her go? I'm not saying you should, I'm just trying to understand why you are struggling with what to do.