"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Dating a co-worker....

stuka1939

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I am usually against this, but this is the situation.

I am 31 and just started a new job on the 2nd floor. Downstairs, there about three cute girls in their early 20's. Two of them are part-time and one is full-time.

I am pretty much sick of the bar scene to meet chicks.

One is a HB7 23 year old brunette. I have made small talk with her and she tends to seem a little nervous around me (fidgeting with her hair and clothes) so I take it as a good sign.

What do you think about dating a part-timer who works in a different department is would be out of sight at work for most of the time?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Mavrick

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It's not a good idea to date people you work with. I know from experience, but if she's in a different and dating her would affect your job, then it's not a problem. As long as it wouldn't affect your work or your job, it's fine.

Good luck, Bro.
 

ProDJ26

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Your playing with fire and walking on thin ice....
 

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I won't even date interns at my job. (well, not until their intership is over). Women at work are off limits. If you've ever been through a sexual harrasment suit or watched a fellow coworker go through one you will know how little to no evidence can still offset and derail your career and ruin your good name. It's not worth it.
 

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Yeah, but ruling out the workplace is just ruling out more opportunities.

I know atleast 5 couples who met at a brokerage firm I worked at and they all got hitched.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Effington

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I don't see a problem as long as they aren't in your department or can effect your work.
 

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I'll certainly think twice before asking out a girl at work. Just imagine this - you come to work the next day and your boss comes to your desk and says "Why don't you follow me?" You follow him to a conference room where another manager joins you, and one of them says "So we heard that you asked so-and-so out to dinner...."

And then "it's come to our attention that you're making her uncomfortable, so just give her her space...say "hi"... we want a friendly work-place..." etc.

Even if you're not accused of "sexual harrassment", it can still really, REALLY suck big-time if it doesn't work out.
 

Mavrick

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Holy Crap! Ruling out work is ruling out more opportunities? WTF is wrong with you? There are girls everywhere. You just need to get the right mindset and grow a pair. Then you'll realize that there are more opportunities than you ever realized.
 

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Don't worry about it. I have fvcked plenty of woman through my job. Just be smart about it. Chances are nothing is going to happen to you. Be discreet about it at work. If you play your cards right than this shouldn't be a problem.

Quit overanalyzing every situation. When in doubt do what a man would do? Do you think a man thinks I don't want to lose my job over the this cvnt. Being a man is about taking chances. Take a chance life is too short.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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