"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Dating a co-worker....

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I am usually against this, but this is the situation.

I am 31 and just started a new job on the 2nd floor. Downstairs, there about three cute girls in their early 20's. Two of them are part-time and one is full-time.

I am pretty much sick of the bar scene to meet chicks.

One is a HB7 23 year old brunette. I have made small talk with her and she tends to seem a little nervous around me (fidgeting with her hair and clothes) so I take it as a good sign.

What do you think about dating a part-timer who works in a different department is would be out of sight at work for most of the time?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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It's not a good idea to date people you work with. I know from experience, but if she's in a different and dating her would affect your job, then it's not a problem. As long as it wouldn't affect your work or your job, it's fine.

Good luck, Bro.
 
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Your playing with fire and walking on thin ice....
 
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I won't even date interns at my job. (well, not until their intership is over). Women at work are off limits. If you've ever been through a sexual harrasment suit or watched a fellow coworker go through one you will know how little to no evidence can still offset and derail your career and ruin your good name. It's not worth it.
 
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Yeah, but ruling out the workplace is just ruling out more opportunities.

I know atleast 5 couples who met at a brokerage firm I worked at and they all got hitched.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I don't see a problem as long as they aren't in your department or can effect your work.
 
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I'll certainly think twice before asking out a girl at work. Just imagine this - you come to work the next day and your boss comes to your desk and says "Why don't you follow me?" You follow him to a conference room where another manager joins you, and one of them says "So we heard that you asked so-and-so out to dinner...."

And then "it's come to our attention that you're making her uncomfortable, so just give her her space...say "hi"... we want a friendly work-place..." etc.

Even if you're not accused of "sexual harrassment", it can still really, REALLY suck big-time if it doesn't work out.
 
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Holy Crap! Ruling out work is ruling out more opportunities? WTF is wrong with you? There are girls everywhere. You just need to get the right mindset and grow a pair. Then you'll realize that there are more opportunities than you ever realized.
 
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Don't worry about it. I have fvcked plenty of woman through my job. Just be smart about it. Chances are nothing is going to happen to you. Be discreet about it at work. If you play your cards right than this shouldn't be a problem.

Quit overanalyzing every situation. When in doubt do what a man would do? Do you think a man thinks I don't want to lose my job over the this cvnt. Being a man is about taking chances. Take a chance life is too short.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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