"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Dating a co-worker....

stuka1939

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I am usually against this, but this is the situation.

I am 31 and just started a new job on the 2nd floor. Downstairs, there about three cute girls in their early 20's. Two of them are part-time and one is full-time.

I am pretty much sick of the bar scene to meet chicks.

One is a HB7 23 year old brunette. I have made small talk with her and she tends to seem a little nervous around me (fidgeting with her hair and clothes) so I take it as a good sign.

What do you think about dating a part-timer who works in a different department is would be out of sight at work for most of the time?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Mavrick

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It's not a good idea to date people you work with. I know from experience, but if she's in a different and dating her would affect your job, then it's not a problem. As long as it wouldn't affect your work or your job, it's fine.

Good luck, Bro.
 

ProDJ26

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Your playing with fire and walking on thin ice....
 

Warrior74

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I won't even date interns at my job. (well, not until their intership is over). Women at work are off limits. If you've ever been through a sexual harrasment suit or watched a fellow coworker go through one you will know how little to no evidence can still offset and derail your career and ruin your good name. It's not worth it.
 

stuka1939

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Yeah, but ruling out the workplace is just ruling out more opportunities.

I know atleast 5 couples who met at a brokerage firm I worked at and they all got hitched.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Effington

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I don't see a problem as long as they aren't in your department or can effect your work.
 

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I'll certainly think twice before asking out a girl at work. Just imagine this - you come to work the next day and your boss comes to your desk and says "Why don't you follow me?" You follow him to a conference room where another manager joins you, and one of them says "So we heard that you asked so-and-so out to dinner...."

And then "it's come to our attention that you're making her uncomfortable, so just give her her space...say "hi"... we want a friendly work-place..." etc.

Even if you're not accused of "sexual harrassment", it can still really, REALLY suck big-time if it doesn't work out.
 

Mavrick

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Holy Crap! Ruling out work is ruling out more opportunities? WTF is wrong with you? There are girls everywhere. You just need to get the right mindset and grow a pair. Then you'll realize that there are more opportunities than you ever realized.
 

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Don't worry about it. I have fvcked plenty of woman through my job. Just be smart about it. Chances are nothing is going to happen to you. Be discreet about it at work. If you play your cards right than this shouldn't be a problem.

Quit overanalyzing every situation. When in doubt do what a man would do? Do you think a man thinks I don't want to lose my job over the this cvnt. Being a man is about taking chances. Take a chance life is too short.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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