"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Dating a Bipolar/Manic...have you?
- Thread starter FrankWank
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
http://www.dbsalliance.org/Forums/ForumRules.asp
(I know this forum because at one point I was convinced I was bipolar - was just a strong case of one-itis though)
RedPill
Master Don Juan
Let's put it this way...
When it was good, it was great. When it was bad, it was downright rotten! There was no rhyme or reason to when she'd start freaking out. Not normal chick emotions, I mean violent temper. I seriously worried in the back of my mind that she might randomly stab me or something.
I didn't even know she was bipolar cause it wasn't diagnosed, but one of her friends who was a psycology major told me what her deal was and said she's refused for years to see a doctor.
We didn't see each other very long. The moral of the story was, stay away from that s***. Unless the chick is the coolest girl of all time, takes her meds, and keeps her problem contained, it's not worth the headaches!
izza
Master Don Juan
Women with wacky emotions and self-esteem problems are so sad. God knows we can quickly learn to love them (which is why it's a good idea to avoid dating them).
Nothing is harder than leaving one of these women because they seem to need you so much, and appreciate so fully what you do. But a lot of the time you can do better, and as you start to build confidence in yourself and realize your dreams, maybe you'll start to see what I mean.
Oh and these women tend to go from needing you to disdaining you in a heartbeat, especially if you let your guard down (happened to me once, see a post in the djb about this type of women). In my experience, women like this have less capacity for stable love.
But hey, leaving them is really hard, I feel that. Anyway, all the best,
Izza
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
themanwithnoname
Senior Don Juan
I know someone that is bipolar.... and trust me.... this chick can be the nicest chick in the world, but out of nowhere, she will start to act like the biggest b!tch in the world... so like RedPill said:
stay away from that s***. Unless the chick is the coolest girl of all time, takes her meds, and keeps her problem contained, it's not worth the headaches!
Laterz...
Even if she is Bipolar/Manic, you cannot let bad behaviour slide in your book. Her mental disease is part of who she is for the better or the worse and you cannot seperate the two and see only her "good side". She is what she is and if she cannot commit herself to trying to treat her problems and getting them under control then you best get out of this relationship.
That relationship also had a deep impact on my life. After she left me, I noticed being around her I somehow was "infected" (for the better word) and for a short period of time I too became depressive and filled with anxiety and panic, while she walked away with my joy. They are like vampires, the more you spend time with them the weaker you become and the stronger they get, until they don't need you anymore and they walk away to look for another man/victim.
themanwithnoname
Senior Don Juan
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Also their sex drive is very fvcked up. Sometimes she was like a deadfish when getting freaky because her pills, when she didnt take them she was a nympho tho.
I never did hit that.
DJohnson
Don Juan
LOL..who HASN'T??
More bad news: Many girls that are bipolar are also insomniacs.
Now i don't know about you, but I wouldn't keep any sharp knives laying about in the kitchen while I was sleeping.