"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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OK, have been fvcking this girl for about 3 weeks now. There really isn't a relationship, we just hang out and end up having sex. Happens probably twice a week. Sometimes she acts like we are in a relationships, and talks like it too, other times she doesn't.

She invites me over to swim at her house a lot, and it is just hangning out, no fvcking. Sometimes we hang out with other friends to, and nothing happens. So there are times we hang out when we don't fvck. I'm a litle confused, as my last fvck buddy, I would literally go over her house, fvck her, then leave, besides that we barely talked. I end up spending all night with this girl.

I don't usually spend money onn her. I started hangning out with her almost two months ago. In that time, we have gotten dinner once, and ice cream a few times. Ib arely spend any money on her, which is great. Sometimes I feel weird about not taking her out. Should I tak her out some, seeing as we do hang out plenty and dont always fvck?

Any helps/tips would be great, I dont really know how to handle this situation, but I guess I've been doing alright so far.

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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Seems more like casual dating than just a f uck buddy. My question is, which do you prefer? Casual Dating? Or no talking lets just get busy?
 
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are you sure she knows she's a **** buddy? Sounds like she thinks she's your gf
 
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You've lost the F-BUDDY.

You two are now FRIENDS WITH BENIFITS. This is followed by UNOFFICIALLY TOGETHER, and then the dreaded ACTUALLY TOGETHER. :)
 
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Yep, sounds like you are into the realm of "friends with benefits". If you don't want this to proceed further, you need to be careful and let her know that you want nothing more than that.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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You aren't in an f-buddy relationship.

You can't assume a f-buddy relationship - you need to actually both agree on it in some way.
 
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OK, well I didn't know there was a difference really between f buddy and friends with benefits. I guess there is. I know she doesn't think she is my gf. Do these things usually progress to a bf-gf type relationship? I doubt that it will, as she had just broken up with her long term boyfriend about a month before i started chillen with her(so about 3 months ago). So I am probably more of a rebound type thing lol, even though she claims thats not the case at all. I dont know, i try to stay away from the heavy talk, when she says things like "you dont tell me anything about you" etc...

I dont know if I could see myself with her. If so, I have never had a relationship that started like this, so I'm kind of lost in what to do.

hhmmmmm... i suck. Thanks for the replies. Anymore would be great.
 
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qweretyuiopas said:
Seems more like casual dating than just a f uck buddy. My question is, which do you prefer? Casual Dating? Or no talking lets just get busy?
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Agreed.....Casual Dating by the sounds of me
 
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