"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

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Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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dates with fvck buddy?

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OK, have been fvcking this girl for about 3 weeks now. There really isn't a relationship, we just hang out and end up having sex. Happens probably twice a week. Sometimes she acts like we are in a relationships, and talks like it too, other times she doesn't.

She invites me over to swim at her house a lot, and it is just hangning out, no fvcking. Sometimes we hang out with other friends to, and nothing happens. So there are times we hang out when we don't fvck. I'm a litle confused, as my last fvck buddy, I would literally go over her house, fvck her, then leave, besides that we barely talked. I end up spending all night with this girl.

I don't usually spend money onn her. I started hangning out with her almost two months ago. In that time, we have gotten dinner once, and ice cream a few times. Ib arely spend any money on her, which is great. Sometimes I feel weird about not taking her out. Should I tak her out some, seeing as we do hang out plenty and dont always fvck?

Any helps/tips would be great, I dont really know how to handle this situation, but I guess I've been doing alright so far.

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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Seems more like casual dating than just a f uck buddy. My question is, which do you prefer? Casual Dating? Or no talking lets just get busy?
 
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are you sure she knows she's a **** buddy? Sounds like she thinks she's your gf
 
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You've lost the F-BUDDY.

You two are now FRIENDS WITH BENIFITS. This is followed by UNOFFICIALLY TOGETHER, and then the dreaded ACTUALLY TOGETHER. :)
 
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Yep, sounds like you are into the realm of "friends with benefits". If you don't want this to proceed further, you need to be careful and let her know that you want nothing more than that.
 

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I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

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You aren't in an f-buddy relationship.

You can't assume a f-buddy relationship - you need to actually both agree on it in some way.
 
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OK, well I didn't know there was a difference really between f buddy and friends with benefits. I guess there is. I know she doesn't think she is my gf. Do these things usually progress to a bf-gf type relationship? I doubt that it will, as she had just broken up with her long term boyfriend about a month before i started chillen with her(so about 3 months ago). So I am probably more of a rebound type thing lol, even though she claims thats not the case at all. I dont know, i try to stay away from the heavy talk, when she says things like "you dont tell me anything about you" etc...

I dont know if I could see myself with her. If so, I have never had a relationship that started like this, so I'm kind of lost in what to do.

hhmmmmm... i suck. Thanks for the replies. Anymore would be great.
 
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qweretyuiopas said:
Seems more like casual dating than just a f uck buddy. My question is, which do you prefer? Casual Dating? Or no talking lets just get busy?
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Agreed.....Casual Dating by the sounds of me
 
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