Dates that are a waste of time

[The Duke]

Tell me about a date you had where you had to turn chameleon, or make certain adjustments, to accommodate her.

Example 1:
I had a girl that I went out with 3 times. I was also casually seeing another girl at the time and this girl knew that. Our first date was a standard date. The second date was with a group of my friends at a concert so we had little one on one time. On our 3rd date we ended up at a hotel bar, and both of us had plenty to drink so I got us a room. We got in bed and I take her top off. At this point I was thinking sex was guaranteed. As soon as I started pulling her panties off, she shut me down. So I backed things up and tried more kissing/caressing and started rubbing her thru her panties. She eventually stopped me and said it wasn't going to happen because I gave off too many player vibes.

I had invested very little into this girl. There was little communication outside of our actual dates. I had done very little at creating an emotional connection. I needed to show her another side of me because she wanted more than sex. All I had really done was show that I was the fun time party guy.

Had I approached this whole situation differently from the start and built more of a connection I don't think she would have put up last minute resistance. I never asked her out again. I had other girls I was talking to and at the time felt she overvalued her pu$$y, her body just didn't do it for me. She had the face of a HB9, body of a HB6.5.

Example 2:
I had met a girl in a bar. We pretty much sat down at a table and had an impromptu first date a few minutes after meeting. Talked for an hour and hit it off good. A few days later I called her up to ask her out and she had me talk to her friend. I thought it was weird but she was having her friend screen me like girls do so I played along with it and had fun, made her laught, and scored points.

On our first ACTUAL date, I was telling stories of how I had effected someones life in a positive way. She ate this up. It totally disarmed her, her body language changed, she began smiling more, and her eyes got bigger. I realized it was working because I paid attention to her body language, so I poured it on thick. She is then telling me how great of a person I am and she was so lucky to meet me. It was then I started with the physical touch and she put up no resistance as we made out on the patio of a roof top bar.

We ended up having sex that night. I wined and dined her, told her what she wanted to hear, and built a connection. She lowered her defenses and was all about giving herself to me. I just facilitated it.

So acting like a chameleon is about playing a role to lower her defenses. That role always varies based on the person and the connection. But to do this effectively, you must have good awareness and be willing to adjust accordingly.

The guys that are having the most success with women are the guys who know how to play a role, develop a connection, and flip the attraction switches. In order to get what everyone of us is after(pu$$y), you have to do this. Sometimes its really easy, other times it takes some investment on your part.

 

[coldapproach]

Every kind of date that doesn't lead to F-close is a massive waste of time. As i use to say — dates are for coucks. Logistics are strictly reserved for setting a date and time to fouck. If you didn't have massive attraction from her in the beginning it'"s a losing game.