Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
And later during the evening you can go overkill and yell "Donkey Punch GO!" when you are about to come. (Assuming you know what Donkey Punch is).Originally posted by Kineti[C]harm
Listen to Bond... When talking about going out on a date don't be fumbling or defensive in your quest... Don't go "Would you like to do something someday" or simular say "Lets do" or "Lets go" or "I'm taking you out" or whatever...
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
You have a couple of things going wrong here:Originally posted by gnin
Is this a good way to ask a girl out: "Do you want to see a movie with me this weekend? I haven't seen one in a while, and I'd like to go with someone." If this sucks or is too pedestrian, what should I change?
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
If shes not intereted she will decline it.Originally posted by gnin
Alrights, if a movie is bad, and shopping is lame, what are some good ideas (that are cheap and not too time consuming)? Also, why is it such a good idea to "tell" her rather than "ask" her out? It seems pointless to force a date on someone who isn't gneuinely interersted in me.
Ehh dude, what has shopping on MY interests got to do with being a chump and putting her on a pedestal! Do you put a chick on a pedestal when you want to buy some sports supplements or a new pair of pants for yourself? I aint talking about buying her ****, Im talking about going shopping because your ALREADY going shopping to BUY stuff for YOURSELF, shes just tagging along with you to keep company and enjoy YOUR company in the process window shopping herself.Originally posted by PuertoRican_Lover
Pua_Guy I was with you all the way until your last sentence where you said "go shopping". Are you 15 years old? Why would you do something so 'chumpish' as shopping? You are already putting her on a pedestal on the first date!
I know you are not a man, because men don't do 'shopping' on a date, let alone the first one, hell let alone with their wives!![]()
Mainstream movies are lame on first meet, you can hire a DVD at your place or go to some international cinema with her where shes never been, thats cool!Originally posted by gnin
Alrights, if a movie is bad, and shopping is lame, what are some good ideas (that are cheap and not too time consuming)? Also, why is it such a good idea to "tell" her rather than "ask" her out? It seems pointless to force a date on someone who isn't gneuinely interersted in me.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.