“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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golf299

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i've got a date tonight (first one) with a girl i've casually known for a few months. here's how the date came about:

i asked her out for last weekend, but she was already busy and had to counter-offer for this weekend. that's fine. then early last week she said she wanted to talk about the prospect of us going out...

we talked and she voiced some certain concerns and said she wanted a couple weeks to think it over before she made her decision, and that she was sorry to leave me hanging like that. apparently she has had some bad relationships in the past and doens't know if she's ready for another one yet...

at that point, the date for this weekend was still up in the air. she said she'd tell me later in the week if she would take me up on my offer. well, she called the next day to accept.

i'm a bit confused as to whether her acceptance of the date in any way nullifies the two weeks she needs to think it over or not.

1) should i bring that up?
2) what can i do to make her decision easier, as in: giving this a chance?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Desdinova

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Sounds like she may have given you a 5hit test, and you passed it. Not sure what you did right.

Anyway, when you go on your date, don't focus on her past relationships. Focus on going out with her and having fun! Make sure she has a damn good time. She'll be glad that she decided to accept your offer.
 

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You have to give us the report.

Hopefully it went well. Her counter offer, and the fact that she did actually accept were good signs.

Response to the first question: I would not have brought it up, since that would show insecurity.

Response to the 2nd question: Dont think about her motivation. Just have a good time. If you are compatible, and give off the right vibe, it will just click naturally. If you are constantly worrying about how she feels, then you are going to come off as nervous.

Hopefully your date went well.
 

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Wtf ur going out for coffee, you already did something wrong if this chick is saying she doesnt know if she wants to get into a relationship with you.

Wtf
 

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UPDATE

the date went well, everything went smoothly. we both had fun, and i could tell that she was being kinda shy.

i did not bring up the 2-week wait period bit.

after we ate, i took her home. she invited me up to her place. i stayed for maybe an hour and then excused myself. i didn't want to over-extend my stay.

at the end i really was wanting to kiss her but opted not to. it's just that i didn't want to push her before she was ready. i suppose that i'll just wait for the 2-weeks she needs to come to a conclusion and see what happens then...
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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