"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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"Date" Report

TekPh0bia

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Well, if you read my last "date report" you know that it was rather bad.

I met another girl on a singles site and we chatted for a while. I got her number in a few minutes, but haven't had time to call her.

I ran my car into a tree (long story, tree fell in front of me), so I wanted to obliterate the day with some alcohol. Well, I was chatting with her during this plan and got way too intimate. I re-read my messages the day after and was rather shocked at what I said..heh. Anyways, we decided to meet eacother.

Driving down to her town, I pick her up at Applebee's. At this point, I was a little nervous and could feel the tiny beads of sweat accumulating on my forehead. I used my humor to tone things down a bit. We drove around aimlessly for a little bit, looking for a coffee shop. Eventually, we found one. We both got a mocha and proceeded to sit down.

For some reason, when you think of *what* to say, you end up not saying much. So, I just stopped thinking and started talking.

The vibe in the coffee shop wasn't so hot, so I looked at her..."Wanna go for a drive?" She agreed.

We drove around for an hour or so...making conversation, laughing, etc. It was fun to say the least.

She was wide awake and we decided it would be fun to go bowling. After another hour of trying to find the damn bowling alley..we eventually arrive. Walk inside and it looks like all the lanes are taken. The guy helping us was rather funny. He kept telling us, "I'm a paranoid employee! Don't look at me!" So, I covered my eyes and asked him for two adults. He responded by saying that all the lanes are taken and we could come back for cosmic bowling. Well, that was an hour away, so that plan was scrapped.

Something funny happened, however. When we walked in, he was helping this one girl. When I walked up to counter, he stopped talking to her and started helping me. The other girl said, "So, you just move onto another customer without finishing?" He goes back to her side, points to me and says, "well...he's better looking." That was a rather nice confidence boost. I looked at her and she had that shocked, funny look on her face..."I can't believe he just said that!!" I smiled at her and continued on...

Anyways, long story short...the "date" went well and she wants to come up to my crib for dinner/movie. I think she even suggested it. However, I have a different plan in mind....a drive to the coast at night!

Perhaps I'm getting back into my groove...

TP out...
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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TekPh0bia said:
Anyways, long story short...the "date" went well and she wants to come up to my crib for dinner/movie. I think she even suggested it. However, I have a different plan in mind....a drive to the coast at night!

Perhaps I'm getting back into my groove...TP out...
Screeeeeeeeech!!!! Hold on kid - hit the brakes and quit driving!!!! She wants to come to your place but you are going tio change plans and take a drive!!!!! Somebody take the car keys away from this guy!!!!:rolleyes:

What are you going to do?? ....drive the car into the the pacific ocean and drown her!!!:rolleyes: Have you been listening to Eminem music - "Dear Stan"???:rolleyes:
 
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Anyways, long story short...the "date" went well and she wants to come up to my crib for dinner/movie. I think she even suggested it. However, I have a different plan in mind....a drive to the coast at night!

Like the poster above said,LET HER COME OVER! Dude your on fire,why cool yourself down?
 

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:whistle: Screeeeeeeeech!!!! Hold on kid - hit the brakes and quit driving!!!! She wants to come to your place but you are going tio change plans and take a drive!!!!! Somebody take the car keys away from this guy!!!!:rolleyes:

What are you going to do?? ....drive the car into the the pacific ocean and drown her!!!:rolleyes: Have you been listening to Eminem music - "Dear Stan"???:rolleyes:

If u want to be a pathetic loser and virgin all your life listen to this guy....

Lets put out a petition to ban this guy.... I don't know how this guy has lasted on this site.....

He hasn't even posted a thread and said anything useful about anything...


Any sane person will agree with me on this . This guys posts are pathetic. Remember I will always call it like I see it...... And everyone else here should do the same.
 
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If u want to be a pathetic loser and virgin all your life listen to this guy....

Lets put out a petition to ban this guy.... I don't know how this guy has lasted on this site.....

He hasn't even posted a thread and said anything useful about anything...


Any sane person will agree with me on this . This guys posts are pathetic. Remember I will always call it like I see it...... And everyone else here should do the same.
I love you too Bro!! (LMS wipes tears from his eyes so that his blur vision doesn't interfere with his typing)
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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TekPh0bia said:
Well, if you read my last "date report" you know that it was rather bad.

I met another girl on a singles site and we chatted for a while. I got her number in a few minutes, but haven't had time to call her.

I ran my car into a tree (long story, tree fell in front of me), so I wanted to obliterate the day with some alcohol. Well, I was chatting with her during this plan and got way too intimate. I re-read my messages the day after and was rather shocked at what I said..heh. Anyways, we decided to meet eacother.

Driving down to her town, I pick her up at Applebee's. At this point, I was a little nervous and could feel the tiny beads of sweat accumulating on my forehead. I used my humor to tone things down a bit. We drove around aimlessly for a little bit, looking for a coffee shop. Eventually, we found one. We both got a mocha and proceeded to sit down.

For some reason, when you think of *what* to say, you end up not saying much. So, I just stopped thinking and started talking.

The vibe in the coffee shop wasn't so hot, so I looked at her..."Wanna go for a drive?" She agreed.

We drove around for an hour or so...making conversation, laughing, etc. It was fun to say the least.

She was wide awake and we decided it would be fun to go bowling. After another hour of trying to find the damn bowling alley..we eventually arrive. Walk inside and it looks like all the lanes are taken. The guy helping us was rather funny. He kept telling us, "I'm a paranoid employee! Don't look at me!" So, I covered my eyes and asked him for two adults. He responded by saying that all the lanes are taken and we could come back for cosmic bowling. Well, that was an hour away, so that plan was scrapped.

Something funny happened, however. When we walked in, he was helping this one girl. When I walked up to counter, he stopped talking to her and started helping me. The other girl said, "So, you just move onto another customer without finishing?" He goes back to her side, points to me and says, "well...he's better looking." That was a rather nice confidence boost. I looked at her and she had that shocked, funny look on her face..."I can't believe he just said that!!" I smiled at her and continued on...

Anyways, long story short...the "date" went well and she wants to come up to my crib for dinner/movie. I think she even suggested it. However, I have a different plan in mind....a drive to the coast at night!

Perhaps I'm getting back into my groove...

TP out...
I like people posting real life situations.... Good job kid.....

Just one question what is your goal in this relationship. You say that she wants to come over your house.

You want to drive the coast at night????


What are ur goals
If its marriage- take her 2 drive the coast at night.
If it is GF- You can do either one.
If it is a lay- Have her come to your house...


If you bring her back to your place you have a much better shot of fvcking that pvssy. If u show your mr. romantic and take her down to the coast u may lose some point for fvcking her *****,


Well anyway nice post. Let me know if u get laid...
 
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