"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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bluemanson

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hi

i just got a little doubt but need more of a come back line,

i asked this girl out, but for some weird reason i had a feeling like she going to say no before i asked but anyway here how the conversation went.

She was laughing her ass off before i said this

Me: you know what i think would a good idea is that we and you go out for sushi tuesday nite"

her : I dont think that would be a good idea

Me: atleast you will be with great company.

Her: maybe we will see.

she changes the subject.


now im not worried if she said yes or no but i was more like kinda caught off guard.

what could i have said to change the conversation around or hit her with a come back line that is C&F when she said "I dont think that would be a good idea"

Thanks guys
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Ease

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hmm something like

'oh come on you were clearly dying for me to ask you out'

takes the pressure off you during rejection and is funny.


But to clarify, at this point the correct thing to do is continue gaming and then try again later right?

as in, more conversation and then 'so ok lets go for sushi'.

Change her mood not her mind
 

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She's just not that into you. Move on. Maybe come back later, but move on for now.

And next time, do it the right way. Tell her what you are doing and tell her she should come along. And you had better like sushi and not be wanting to go there just to make her happy. Do what is fun for you and tell her she should join you.
 

bluemanson

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Bible_Belt said:
She's just not that into you. Move on. Maybe come back later, but move on for now.

And next time, do it the right way. Tell her what you are doing and tell her she should come along. And you had better like sushi and not be wanting to go there just to make her happy. Do what is fun for you and tell her she should join you.


Well it would be stupid to take her to a place where i wouldnt go myself, that would just wouldnt be right now would it, anyway, im not giving this girl much thort but i was thinking maybe next time if i were in a situation like this then how would il approach it or give a good answer
 

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Ease i understand what you saying and i like your quote, Change her mood not her mind
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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