selfmademob
Banned
I met this chick on MYspace, I am going to go out with her. But she said she is going to drive and meet me there. Should I be picking her up? help me out here.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Date question
- Thread starter selfmademob
- Start date
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
Tell her that's fine, because you have other stuff to do after the date. Keep it light and end it early. She's probably been trapped in bad first dates before by not driving.
The best is if she meets you at your house, and you go out together. Then, when the date is over, she has to go back to your house to get her car, or drop you off, depending on who's driving. Then, you can ask her to look at your stamp collection or whatever is in your house.
Gangster Of Love
Master Don Juan
Your concern should not be if she should meet you there, or you should pick her up, it should be what you will do once, and if, she actually shows up and you meet her, to create and amplify attraction to the point where these things are just formalities.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
If you have never met her, I would not recommend to drive her. Have her meet you at the location to make sure she's cool. I wouldn't want a weirdo in my car if she is one! Im not saying she is but myspace can have some freaky people...