selfmademob
Banned
I met this chick on MYspace, I am going to go out with her. But she said she is going to drive and meet me there. Should I be picking her up? help me out here.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Date question
- Thread starter selfmademob
- Start date
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
Tell her that's fine, because you have other stuff to do after the date. Keep it light and end it early. She's probably been trapped in bad first dates before by not driving.
The best is if she meets you at your house, and you go out together. Then, when the date is over, she has to go back to your house to get her car, or drop you off, depending on who's driving. Then, you can ask her to look at your stamp collection or whatever is in your house.
Gangster Of Love
Master Don Juan
Your concern should not be if she should meet you there, or you should pick her up, it should be what you will do once, and if, she actually shows up and you meet her, to create and amplify attraction to the point where these things are just formalities.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
If you have never met her, I would not recommend to drive her. Have her meet you at the location to make sure she's cool. I wouldn't want a weirdo in my car if she is one! Im not saying she is but myspace can have some freaky people...