Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
no you're wrongHuffman said:Your post doesn't make you seem any less retarded, so well done.
Did it fit in your head that the above suggestions were for first/second dates with people you hardly even know? Your dates are good for when you're already in a relationship, I give you that, but trying these too early would just scare the girls away. Like cuddling in the dark or inviting her over already.
I agree though that karting is very strange, it's expensive and is only fun in a group anyway!
ewwww i hate jagermiester, and hotel rooms are too gloomy. I prefer my place or his. We have our stuffs, we can share, we can raid his fridge and make crepes. Fall asleep in our bed, It's real and personal, it's not forced, not planned, we can do whatever we want. EVen saying bye and **** off home at any moment.SharinganUser said:A bottle of Jagermiester and a hotel room = great date.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Only a dutch word could describe what I want to do to you...BBbardot said:ewwww i hate jagermiester, and hotel rooms are too gloomy. I prefer my place or his. We have our stuffs, we can share, we can raid his fridge and make crepes. Fall asleep in our bed, It's real and personal, it's not forced, not planned, we can do whatever we want. EVen saying bye and **** off home at any moment.
im aware you were probbably joking but i figured i could answer anyway
you should be lockd upCredos said:Only a dutch word could describe what I want to do to you...
I would seriously "Swaffel" you in the face for a fvcking hour until you sh*t the fvck up... Seriously, why is this AW (just so you understand attention Wh0re) lurking here...
Look at post #4
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
That sounds very cool, it needs a lot of planning to make sure it isn't going to freak her out though. If you have time and resources it's a great idea.WhitePimp said:I always wanted to take a girl on a fake crime. I would set it up so it looks like we're doing something highly illegal, get our pheromones and adrenaline pumping, then once the 'crime' is complete, we escape like we're about to get caught or there's people chasing us. Her head/heart will be spinning with so many emotions if played correctly that you're guaranteed to be the most unforgettable date she's ever had.
i went there because i liked him. A lot. Yeah usually you can figure those things pretty fast. And i knew nothing bad could happen to me in a godamn embassy.Htienvu said:BBbardot... Just because you went to someone you just meet's place in your underwear and play "hide n seek" doesn't mean every girl will do the same. Anyways, this thread is just to brainstorm ideas together, there is NO need to flame etc... If you haven't got useful inputs then please do not post.